Can this ever work?

[Herewegoagain5]

Can you ever seperate, live in the same house, co parent and be happy?

it’s all feeling so hopeless at the moment. Like I feel in the way, out of place, not at home when he’s here

No.

No one should be given the power to make you feel like that.

I’m not sure he’s intentionally doing it but it’s how I feel

Your feelings are valid. He knows what he is doing.

No.
I am going through separation. We are in same house. It is awful

Same here. It's so confusing.

In the same boat and all I can say is i feel you. This is the hardest thing i have done.

In the exact same situation - had a conversation about seperating before Christmas, said we'd get Christmas out of the way but not mentioned since and we sort of dance around each other everyday yet he talks about next christmas and holidays this year. It's all a mess and I feel your pain.

Then speak up. Take control of your life.

Not in the long term, and it is difficult and you do need your own space.

How long have you been separated?

I have been going through separation for 15 months. We live together in the same house with our DS. Separate bedrooms, seperate bathrooms (he has en suite, i share family bathroom with DS) plus he has his own space in the converted garage and I have the living room. We share the kitchen. It was only originally going to be a few months and we are 100% clear that we have separated, our friends and family know the situation. The first few months were very difficult. But 15 months later things are OK.
But it does work for us, we have just spent Christmas together, our DS sees both parents every day and we have quality days with him separately.
It isn't always ideal and can't be like this forever, but letting the dust settle means it has taken the heat out of any discussions and we can have sensible conversation about the future.
The main reason we are still living together is we live in a rural area and very few properties on the market and want to stay here for DS school.

We aren’t officially separated but aren’t speaking to each other. Iv asked for counselling and has said there is no point. So I said counselling or seperation are our only options.

we have children together and I’m currently pregnant. All we do is argue and it blew up yesterday to this point

No, can’t be done