No sex or affection

[Lookingforlove2022]

Hello,

I have been with someone for over a year, he is a great man etc... but he has no sex drive, not great but I think I can live with that but he hardly shows me any affection.
I know we are busy working, kids etc but he says he is too tired to really even kiss me ( I may get two kisses per night), no cuddles etc...
We are only in our early fifties....

Any advice, anyone been in this situation?

Has he always been the same ?

It’s one thing having little sex but a relationship without affection because he’s just too tired? I couldn’t do that. I think it someone loves you and cares for you then they show it. That might not mean marathon sessions but certainly to me that means hugs, kisses, and curling up together.

It sounds more like a room mate relationship that you have. After only a year or so of being together? It’s not what I would choose. But if you’re together for other reasons (companionship maybe) and you’re happy with that, then it’s your decision. Do have proper communication or is it just general stuff about family and what you’re having for tea? Again, I’d want someone I could talk to properly about anything without judgement.

You’ve both a long time left to live so if you’re happy with another 30+ years of this then that’s okay.