Getting rid of sentimental stuff

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Views i am getting rid of sentimental stuff like work leaving cards and do on.
I don't give a shit about that time in life anymore as last six years has not been what I expected to happen in life with oh female friend, sons mental health, parents illness, losing parent, lots of other stuff and life hasn't been what I expected so just can't be assed to keep shit anymore from years gone by.
I feel like something in me died a few years ago and I am not the same person. It's like I've got all these beautiful cards with amazing messages from my oh but he was going leave me a week after one of these beautiful cards was sent so they kind of have minimal meaning now.
I just feel disappointed in people and life.
Does any others understand this or been through a similar thing. The person I used to be is gone inside. I pretend but I'm not here anymore. I used to feel so excited for things but I don't even look forward to holiday's anymore just feels hassle. Not much excites me now. I feel invisible.

bin them
dont read them
you’re wallowing op
set fire to them if you must!

Yeah I am

Just bin. Don’t review, bin it all. Clear the space in your head and your house.

Afterwards, give your room a fresh coat of paint (if you the have the energy yourself or the money to pay someone). Fresh start.

That was me OP! Long journey but it's (mostly) done. My advantage (if you can call it that) is that I had to leave the family home behind so in starting a new chapter I had to focus on having a much smaller space. I must admit at times I've got quite morbid (visions of my children being the next people to sort through stuff) and I am exactly the same still about holidays (can't imagine ever being able to book/pack for one let alone enjoy it). I hope this will gradually come back. I still have a self-store which costs quite a lot so that's my next plan. I've always been a perfectionist but a good lesson was little by little and not get overwhelmed. Plus my ex-husband left me to clear the whole house by completion and expected me to fail - so I flipping well didn't give him that satisfaction! Your last paragraph was exactly me. Still is a lot of the time. I've had very low lows due to really bad family stuff, but somehow I'm beginning to surface and I really wish you well. So sorry to hear about everything you've been through, best wishes to your son.

Sentimental things should make you smile, anything that doesn't can get in the bin!

It all made me smile and I wanted to keep forever but things changed and just one example when my oh tells me how much he loves me and appreciated me and one week later says he doesn't want to be with me it makes me feel that everything is just words.
When I left a long term job got a lovely card with lovely words but not many people bothered to come out with me so again words. I just don't get people anymore.

I just feel sad as used to feel alive but I don't enjoy much anymore but just keep that inside.

I'm not sentimental, only things from my kids and late father. When my exh left me all photos and gifts from him went in the bin after 20 years, I'm not particularly close to anyone in my family so I don't hold on to stuff, I have an empty loft, I rather chuck out clutter that I don't use, I feel better for not keeping everything.

I don't keep cards but I will take a photo of the message inside if it's nice one.

When you leave a workplace, the relationships tend to fizzle out without the everyday contact. This does not mean that what your ex-colleagues wrote in your leavers card was insincere. It shows you were valued, liked and appreciated, so you might want to hang onto that card.

I would not keep anything from someone who went on to treat me badly, though. Your son may want to keep photo of you and ex-OH if he is the father, but like PP said, if it doesn't make you happy, bin it.

You sound a bit down, OP and battered by life at the moment. Rather than looking at memorabilia, is there anything in your everyday life that gives you joy and if not, is there a way you can make your everyday life a bit happier?

Nothing at moment but will just take each day as it comes

Thanks for all the advice everyone