I know there is a sex topic but I don't like it there ar all.
And I feel this is more about me overall than just sex. I don't know
But I'm 40 years old and have zero sex drive. Zero. I could happily never have sex again. Never masturbate again.
I have a gorgeous husband who is bloody amazing. In all ways. Takes care of me, loves the bones of me.
There are alot of stressful things going on at the moment that stretch back years, issues with kids.
I have had depression and anxiety since childhood (some trauma there) but in my teens, 20s and 30s was still very sexual! I used to have toys, dress up etc.
It's like a switch was flicked and I have absolutely no desire now.
It's not like I see other men and get aroused. There's nothing for anyone. Celebrities etc. I used to say I was bisexual, I kissed a few women etc but that's dead too, no feelings that way either.
I don't think I'm perimenopausal? I still have spot on monthly periods. No changes.
I've lost a lot of weight.
I should be feeling great.
BTW when we do have sex he makes me orgasm, he's gets, very into making me happy. It takes a while but when I get into it I start to enjoy myself but it's like the avoidance is crazy.
I've recently been diagnosed as AuAdhd but I've been that my whole life so I dunno.
I want to change. I'm unhappy with this. I want to want my husband.
I dont understand why I have no desire at all.
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