Split from new BF

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Hello everyone

I’m looking for advice please!!🙏

I divorced from child’s dad and later met someone else.

I told my child that I had a boyfriend a while back, after being together for around 1.5years and they met him a couple of times but not spent any substantial time with him since I told them….. There is no emotional bond between them.

There is no way forward for the relationship, for various reasons, but I don’t know how to tell my child.

Thoughts would be welcome please. The separation from their dad was very very messy and worried about the outcome of this.

How old is your child?

I think you just need to be honest, and say that dp and you have decided that you no longer want to be a couple, but will remain friends (if that’s possible). If they’ve only met a couple of times, then there won’t be the emotional fallout like before.

Then spend alot if times doing nice things with dc.

It is part of life and good opportunity to model some mature, calm behaviour and talk about some of life's challenges - depends a LOT on age of your child though. If very young they may not even notice much if they only saw him twice - really depends on age.

My child is 8

Thank you. It's a hard breakup for me but I don't think they will be too affected by it as they never see him. But unsure if I'm just being naive.

I would say nothing. He barely sees him as you said so just dont mention him again and if he asks just say you are no longer friends. Kids fall out with pals all the time and it is healthy for your child to know not everyone will be in your life for all of your life. He may not even notice!

Agreed with other poster, why mention it. If they ever ask just say you don't really see them anymore and shrug it off.