ExDP and I broke up in August. Didnt live together by mutual choice but together and committed for 5 years. It ended because he could be very thoughtless and selfish and wasnt at all sympathetic to my menopause leading to my libido falling off a cliff and became a sex pest. I was in the process of getting treatment for meno and needed time but he just didnt give it to me. I think we just came to the end of the road, it happens. We keep in touch and chat occassionally.
But I messaged him last night as a mutual friend made a surprise visit from abroad and I knew he would like to come down and see him. He was a bit short with me, but thought nothing of it. Then he messaged today to say he was sorry but he was on a first date which is why he couldnt talk.
Why the hell has it bothered me so much?! He was never particularly emotional, I know he cared about me, but I was never sure if he loved me he never really said it. So why has this hit me? I actually got quite upset earlier. I dont think it woudl work if we got back together, we split up once before and things changed for a while but he soon slipped back into his thoughtless ways. And he is a sulker which drove me mad. I dont get why I care so much that he is dating? The way I feel right now, I think I would be really upset if I saw him with someone else.