Marriage and testosterone

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My husband (38) has been diagnosed with low testosterone. It seems to have gotten worse with age, which is common. We have 3 kids and are happy and get on very well, good life and marriage is generally strong.

i wonder if anyone has experience of their husband going through this- how has it affected you and them? He is very present, great dad but he is emotionally more closed and doesn’t like talking about our lack of sex and intimacy due to the testosterone. It feels like be closed up and feels shame when I bring it up. I don’t want this to affect our marriage I want to be able to communicate well with him. Any tips? From men going through this or women with experience

Will they just prescribe gel? And pop him on good dose to help his symptoms,

Out of interest what were his main symptoms?

My DH (in his 60s) had his testosterone blocked because he has advanced prostate cancer and it's been a very tough 5 years.
His personality has really changed and not for the better. Very snappy and irritable, more self centred, very little libido. Physically he's put on weight around the middle and lost a lot of muscle tone.
Long term health risks of low T:- diabetes, cardiovascular problems, osteoporosis, dementia.
He needs to see a GP and maybe an endocrinologist as he's very young to have low T.

I’m taking Tostran testosterone for loss of libido during menopause. Tostran is licensed for men, but taken at a lower dose for women. I have had amazing results from it and my libido kicked back in after two weeks of taking it. I’d encourage your husband to try something like this, it makes such a difference to quality of life. Encourage him to see his G.P about Tostran or another testosterone, 🤗

Thanks everyone. His main symptom is ED, he is quite a closed person and finds it hard to talk about how he feels. I know he will have low self esteem.

he has seen his gp, who has said although it’s low it’s not dangerously low and suggested a course of viagra. This worked but it’s not something be seems totally comfortable taking all the time.

he will go back to the dr to focus hormone therapy/ gels etc although he also seems a bit anxious to take testosterone. i know he does want to sort it but is just overwhelmed and needs time.

how can i best support? I love him very much and we have a fantastic relationship. I do think it has made him slightly more closed off to affection though.