Thinking about old friend

[whitebunnies]

I fell out with a friend a few years ago as she said something that was out of line, I should have called her out at the time. I blocked her and she did write to me twice but I was just so angry I never responded. I have thought about her a lot the last few weeks. I wish I spoke up at the time because I should have said that was wrong to say and she probably has no idea why I cut her off.

Do you want to clear the air and make up? Or just tell her off?

After so long I’d just move on. You shouldn’t still be thinking about this slight, unless you miss her and want to be friends again.

Well, you can always try contacting her and apologising for cutting her out if you want to reconnect.

She may be amenable to sorting it out.

Although to be honest, if someone just cut me off without explanation, I'd probably not be too interested in renewing the friendship.

And yeah, even less interested in being told off for a several years ago comment.

I just want to make peace but am worried she may ignore me or have a go at me.

If you want to make up you are just going to need to be brave and send a message or a letter. I dropped contact with a friend about 12 years ago (she had done nothing wrong, it was all on me). Several years later I sent a message apologising and explaining what had happened - I was really worriedI'd receive an angry reply. We will never be good friends again - I spoilt that - but it cleared the air. She said she was really pleased I'd got in touch.

You need to be a bit careful with how you word it so you are not raking up dirt again, or sounding as if you want to start an argument. Good luck.

Was it a one off thoughtless comment that she's oblivious of, or spiteful? What did her letters say?

If not part of a wider pattern and you can take it on the chin if she doesn't wish to resume contact I would message or write.

Well you've got nothing to lose OP!

And even if she doesn't want to be friends, at least you've apologised and explained which sounds to be the right thing in this situation?

If I was the friend I'd rather have a genuine explanation and apology than not.

(Unless you're the friend that did this to me in 2012 - then you can F right off!!)

I fell out with a mate a few years ago and still think about her all the time. I said something horrible because I was hurt. I tried to apologise but she blocked me and we haven't spoken since. I've grown and learnt a lot since. I miss her still. Send the message! You have nothing to lose.