Craving sex with a new man / men in Long term relationship! HELP!

[BeCandidJadeSloth]

Long term relationship here, never cheated, extremely loyal, coming up to 20 years together.. relationship has been up/down, not always great, but mostly.. DH did cheat on me, once, we worked through it.. Can't help but feel the rather STRONG desire to be wanted by and sleep with other men all of a sudden..!!? WHY?! I couldn't cheat, I'm just not that type.. what do I do?? We have young kids together.. We don't connect or get much time together, our lives are very busy.. I suppose I'm looking for thrill, fun, new excitement..

Anyone been through this? Outcome?

Can you get a babysitter and spend some time just the 2 of you?

You need to make time for each other, or one day soon an opportunity will present itself and things will change for you and you will find yourself the one cheating, at least at some level. You are craving what you are missing from your relationship, work to bring it back or be prepared for it to nose dive.

You'll just have to either accept being unfulfilled and make the most of what you got, or decide to break up. It might be a phase that passes.

Do you think such thoughts are connected to and stem from the fact that 1. your husband cheated and 2 you both do not connect and or spend a great deal of time together?.

When you write that we worked through the cheating do you think he actually did enough to show you he was sorry for what he had done; for instance did he arrange counselling or did you do this?. I also do not feel you are over this from him even now and that would be completely understandable.

Agree with it being a delayed reaction to his betrayal.
Mine didn't cheat but out sex life was never great on my end and has been non existant for several years and I do go through periods of lusting after other men but then I calm down and feel glad I didn't make myself emotionally vulnerable (has he lost interest now he saw me naked? Is he ghosting me?) or the health anxiety I get later (did I catch something? Condoms don't protect from everything..)
I think you just suppress that urge like being on a diet. You distract, you go through your reasons, you avoid and you wait it out.