Call with IDVA - feeling very adrift

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I’m 6 weeks into leaving my husband following domestic violence to me (every category) and physical and emotional abuse to our children. I’ve finally been connected with an idva who all the other professionals had said would be the support I need. But we had a call yesterday which just left me feeling deflated. I didn’t feel that she understood my situation or why I was so scared - he’s not kicking off and ‘misbehaving’ so I just didn’t feel taken seriously. She said they won’t do any therapeutic help re understanding the situation (which is what I am really struggling with) but do info and advice. It just feels a bit pointless, and not the validation/understanding that I had expected. Is this what IDVA provide broadly? I haven’t gone into the depth and details of what I have experienced - she has some info from children’s services who have been supporting for a while, so seems to be going off that.

I've no experience OP but just bumping for you and wishing you well.

IDVAs are assigned to support with immediate safety planning in high risk DV. Some services provide support from people also called IDVAs who can provide longer term support but it's not therapeutic support. Some orgs provide therapy but with long waiting lists, very long. You can use the IDVA to help you make things easier and safer in the short term and ask her advice about where to find therapy.

Can you maybe ask if you can get support from someone else?
Sometimes I find if you don't connect with someone it's hard to be particularly open with them and in this instance I think you need to be open to move forward? You may be feeling sensitive and vulnerable due to the situation and what you've been thru and you need someone who understands more.
I would definitely bring it up with someone rather than feel deflated and let down coz you need support to get the closure for your mental health.

@Puppydog83 thats a good idea. Maybe if I meet her in person I’ll feel differently, but I just felt very unemotional and detached during the conversation. The waiting list for therapeutic support is over a year where I am so just feeling very uneasy and in limbo