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‘We were the most attractive people in that club’

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jacobmib · 06/01/2025 18:30

Said the man I’m dating when telling me about a certain time when he was visiting a certain city and he and his group of friends went to a club and skipped the long queue because they were good looking.

Granted there was apparently a very hot (his words) woman in the group and he says it was mainly because of her that they manage to skip the queue but once there he realised that they were the most attractive people in that club.

BTW I don’t find him conventionally attractive. He is in his mid 50s now and this happened 10 - 12 years ago so we are not talking about a teen boy here.

Got the ick now.

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soupfiend · 07/01/2025 07:45

OneLemonGuide · 06/01/2025 20:32

Erm, isn’t that most people who go to a club and are looking for,’or even fantasising about, a hook-up! You assess very quickly who you fancy, and who the competition is!… Isn’t that just natural “mating”
behaviour?

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Yes I dont know why society has moved to almost deny this.

Lyannaa · 07/01/2025 07:49

Why would he be telling this to someone he's dating? The only person I ever dated who said stuff like this turned out to be a narcissist.

And to the person on here who said that on MN women are allowed to celebrate their good looks - don't be so disingenuous.

DUsername · 07/01/2025 07:50

MrsPinkSky · 06/01/2025 18:32

And yet when a woman posts on MN about how attractive she is, anyone who takes the piss gets accused of trying to dent her confidence.

Good on him if he's confident in his looks, as long as he kept his opinions about it to himself.

Oh come on. Do we have to turn EVERYTHING into a 'and yet if a woman posted this'. It's getting really tedious on here lately.

We all know that if a woman posted to say that she and her pals were the best looking people in a club and there was nobody 'interesting' looking in a particular city she would have her arse handed to her. The dissenting voices would be few and far between.

Gone12 · 07/01/2025 07:50

ComtesseDeSpair · 06/01/2025 18:50

With a few exceptions, isn’t this exactly why nightclubs exist: so that people can eye up the attractive people around them, gauge who their competition is and who they fancy the most, and decide who they’d like to sidle over towards to dance and make out with and possibly take home?

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Erm...no

HollyKnight · 07/01/2025 07:59

What a weird overreaction. He didn't say he was the most attractive person in the club. He was talking about them as a group. With one specific woman doing most of the heavy lifting.

buttonousmaximous · 07/01/2025 08:26

I'm all for confidence but it's the comparison that others are somehow lacking because (in his opinion) they are unattractive and the value he clearly holds for looks .

I'd find this quite immature and in poor taste.

gannett · 07/01/2025 08:28

Not all clubs are for going out on the pull. As a big clubber I've always gone to them for the music (and drugs), not the men. If I ended up with a man at the end of the night that was more coincidence and circumstance than design.

I have definitely noted that my friends and I are the coolest group in the club though (I wouldn't say "best-looking" per se but others might). Whenever our hipster group stumbled into a mainstream club playing five-year-old cheesy music full of basics on the pull, for instance. And I've mentioned that in passing to DP on many occasions! What a weird thing to take offence to.

Pifflepafflewifflewaffle · 07/01/2025 08:29

Was it the local Con Club? that’s the only way this makes sense.

evelynevelyn · 07/01/2025 08:32

Gone12 · 07/01/2025 07:50

Erm...no

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That’s quite a big part of it though, don’t you think?

The number of clubs has collapsed since the early 2000s. It doesn’t seem coincidental that this is when dating/hookup apps started to go mainstream, then took over that function from clubs.

Headingtowardsdivorce · 07/01/2025 08:33

If you e got the ick, you've got the ick. What we think about his comment really doesn't matter does it?!

Jumpstraighttorecipe · 07/01/2025 10:50

Pumpkincozynights · 06/01/2025 18:51

He was the most attractive person ( or one of them) in a club and he was 40! Really? What sort of club was this? And quite frankly what a strange thing to say. So he thinks the city is great but it’s full of mingers 😂.

A working men's club in Doncaster?
It's a great city to live in if you want to feel more attractive than you actually are btw, it's the one great thing about living here.

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