Thread for people who have cut someone off in 2025 and want some solidarity and support to keep it like that.

[Disturbia81]

I've been trying to cut someone off for ages but they softened me in december and I nearly gave in to having a thing with them again. But then just before Christmas got a sharp reminder of why I need to cut contact, and so the turn of a new year and new beginnings has given me extra encouragement to not have his negative vibes in my life anymore. To not be made to feel like shit.
But I'm human and miss the good times and how he made me feel in positive ways, I miss just chatting and how well we got on, so often feel the temptation to unblock. I also don't have loads of people who really know me, he did and I've lost many people death wise so it's sad to lose another. I really can't have him make me feel like crap again though.
I just thought a thread with people going through the same thing could help us, solidarity and all that? If we feel weak we could post here 🖤

So be it a toxic partner, parent, friend.. whoever. Lets keep them away like the foul creatures they are sapping our souls 😂

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Even if no-one joins in I'll just use it to motivate myself 😆
He's miss calling my phone to get my attention and I'm ignoring it and feeling good.

Stay strong. Even though you had good times you really don't need people in your life that make you feel like crap. It sounds like you need to find your 'people'. Remember, really good friends are happy for your successes.

I'm removing myself from a 'friend' who just brings me down every time I see her. I just decided that when you are constantly being negative the friendship becomes a one way street and I can't give it headspace anymore. Just to add there is nothing wrong in her life - she is just a person who seems to want to be in a race to the bottom. Sad really but there is only so much you can take.

Thanks for replying!
I have some great friends, great job and colleagues etc but you know how someone who loves you knows you intimately and spends time really getting to know you. I feel like I need to replace him but I'm also really put off men haha.
I don't blame you ending that friendship, I've known some negative people and they drain the life out of you, no matter how positive you are yourself. It's a great feeling in life when you realise you don't have to put up with these people. Stay strong too ♥️

Oh god I could have written your op ! His initial doesn't begin with S does it 😂 I'll join you if you need a mutual accountability buddy?!

Solidarity ✊
Mine is ex.H. He moved out in May. Asked and asked to try again. Said all the right things.
The day before he was due to move back in (Dec 21st) we had a "same old same old" conversation - not even a bad one...but I changed my mindnand actually said so.
It's not easy but we CAN do hard things when it's important.
I miss the closeness, the laughter but not the selfish twattery.