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Opinions please!

11 replies

kittykat26 · 06/01/2025 13:05

Hi, opinions please Smile
Our neighbours, who don't appear to particularly like me, asked my oh to pop over to their house for a chat.
The chat was to ask my oh to accompany the female neighbour to a well known pop concert as her oh doesn't like this group.
These neighbours are fairly wealthy (we aren't) and ask my oh to do favours for them occasionally around garden ect (for free of course) so maybe they asked my oh as payment back for the things he's done to help them?
Anyway, I feel quite insulted as my feelings weren't considered at all.
I've wanted for me and my oh to go to a concert since e we met years ago, due to life in general we've never got round to it. My oh also knows this.
Am I right to feel a bit off over this or is it perfectly acceptable for my oh and the neighbour to go out together?
For clarity, the male neighbour doesn't actually talk to me.
An occasional general hello if we're at a neighbourhood party ect but never actually spoken to me. Neighbours for 3 years. The female neighbour has asked what my oh is like at home, touchy feely ect...

OP posts:
pinkdelight · 06/01/2025 13:13

I've wanted for me and my oh to go to a concert since e we met years ago, due to life in general we've never got round to it.

So book to go to a concert with him. You can't be that bothered if you've never done until now and can't blame him on that score. On the bigger issue, I'd be a bit sus about the neighbour's wife saucing up to my oh but depends whether you trust him.

Pinkbonbon · 06/01/2025 13:17

She's angling to shag your partner.

And if your partner didn't firmly say 'no, that's not appropriate, I have a wife' then you have a husband (parter?) problem.

I hope he put her straight op because this is not ok.

And he would not be doing any little jobs round there anymore either if he was my husband.

Pinkbonbon · 06/01/2025 13:19

Tbh I'd actually be wondering if they are shagging and he is telling her you two don't sleep together anymore. Hense her odd question about how affectionate it is.

DaringLion · 06/01/2025 13:20

Did he say yes? She wants your husband and her husband sounds like he’s gone along with it . WEIRD

Pinkbonbon · 06/01/2025 13:28

I'd expect him to say to her 'sorry, that's not appropriate, I have a partner so it would be disrespectful, if you like, I'll ask her if she wants to go with you though?'.

But even if she says yes, I'd politely decline.
And I'd probably also jokingly be like 'what's this I hear about you trying to steal my man Sandra?' next time I saw her.

2025HereICome · 06/01/2025 13:30

They're swingers OP

Olika · 06/01/2025 13:31

And what did you OH say to them? Is this female neighbour a child that needs babysitting as she cannot go out by herself? Ridiculous. And I hope your Oh told them so.

Starsandall · 06/01/2025 13:32

Odd! Obviously he said no?? Take a friend? The swingers might not be far from wrong!

Pinkbonbon · 06/01/2025 13:35

2025HereICome · 06/01/2025 13:30

They're swingers OP

Very possible...

Has he been mowing their lawns or...(/italic) mowing their lawns 😋🤔😉
Maybe laying a carpet or too as well?

DaringLion · 06/01/2025 13:42

I want to know what the husband said to this ridiculous idea.

Lurkingandlearning · 06/01/2025 14:51

They both invited him over to ask him to go to the concert and she’s previously asked if he is touchy feely.

They are sizing him up for a threesome or cuckold kink.

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