Red flags on date

[timjohn123]

I went on two dates with a woman recently and I’m confused.

On one hand my was super attractive , funny and flirty. However her behaviour was concerning…

On the first date for 6-7 hrs she didn’t ask anything about me and just talked about random topics like..men she’s slept with, failed relationships, feeling excited that she recently knew what a camel toe is, family issues and all men cheat.

I tried to get her out of the loop and asked her about places she’s travelled to. She told me that she recently went to a city and she met a 75 year old man that took her into the woods (which she really liked and did multiple time)

By the end of the night she had to basically be helped to leave the bar.

on the second date she made no effort with communicating.. she spent most of the date being absent minded, talking about colleagues she slept with and refused to open up about her life

Keen to hear thoughts on this. I’m aware everyone has an attachment style and hers sounds like it might be absent avoidant ( I of course won’t know as I’ve only spent a few days with her but it appears to be this)

I am really confused about why there was a second date? What are your standards? What are you looking for from a relationship or even from an evening of your life?

This doesn't sound healthy.

Why was there a second date?

She sounds like she may have sexual trauma and is reenacting it as a coping mechanism.

Why on earth was there a second date?

Red flag bunting!! Fgs no more dates.

Jackanory time methinks 😀

I am not sure about her attachment style - is 'bat shit crazy' a category?

Run

Why on earth did you go back for a second d date when there were more red flags than a Moscow May Day parade right from the start?

I have no idea about attachment styles but tbh what does it matter? She’s absolutely barking mad - run a mile and block her on every channel. And hide your pet rabbit ffs

Attachment style? No.

Don't see her again.

Maybe don't date for a while.

This is a joke

Keen to hear thoughts on this

She’s batshit - HTH

Haha at first I thought she just had a few too many drinks and was making up stories. Second date was a sober one and didn’t get better…

So what are you "confused" about?! Seems pretty crystal clear to me

If this is true she was putting herself in a very dangerous situation. She's talking to a complete stranger about having sex and then she's drinking so much she can hardly walk. If I were in such a vulnerable situation I would like the guy to end the date pretty quickly and say quite bluntly that he thought I was drinking too much and needed to go home. I know that can sound patronising but it would probably sober me up a little and send me on my way.

i agree. when things were heading in that direction I cut the date off and made sure she got home safely.

I was probably a bit naive and just thought she made everything up…next date cemented it and haven’t spoken to her since

I wouldn’t be going on a 3rd date, I wouldn’t have even gone on a second…..ye were together for 6-7 hours and she didn’t ask you anything about yourself and then had to be helped to leave the bar!!!…..come on, raise your standards

Surely this is meant to be a joke?

@timjohn123 what was the question again? I don't know why you're even asking. (Scrolled back up)