Virgin

[Custardslices]

I have a friend who's 29 never dated, she found a man online few months ago also 29

She's a virgin, he then claimed he is too. Very good looking man so I'm finding it hard to believe this is the case. He seems confident doing foreplay and is eager to progress to intercourse.

I get it he's eager but he also claims his mates are virgins too. I don't know why but I don't believe him think he's after her virginity to then bugger off I could be wrong

Is there that many people this age out there virgins?

You could be right

Well it could be 50/50 since most men now are virgins or others are bastards. Society has changed over time a lot and for some it can be hard to find love 🤷‍♂️. But you should definitely tell your friend to watch out and help her investigate

The statistics and we know that statistics are going to be somewhat unreliable on this topic are that about 1 in 8 are virgins at age 25/26.

He might be a virgin, (doubtful) but I doubt all his mates are too. I think he’s telling her what she wants to hear so he can take her virginity and then she will never hear from him again. Sorry but I’d be willing to put money on that happening.

@Custardslices would it matter to her either way if he was or wasn't? Is it important to her and why? He may have said it to allay her fears or feeling nervous. Or he may just have to get inside her knickers. She has to make that judgement and decide if she trusts him or cares. Is she looking at this as. Long term? Or just a bit of fun? I assume the former?

She's looking at this long term, she will not cope if he goes after they've been intimate.

I feel this is his motivation. It would bother her that he's lied for sure.

@Custardslices ultimately it is her choice to trust or not to trust, if she does trust him and it turns out all good then fine. If it turns out he is using her then all you can do is be there for her. Part of life's lessons, we just can't predict the future.

At this stage she should wait for marriage because any relationship can break up for any reason but she would struggle to find a man over 29 who is a virgin who then is compatible with her and is also waiting til marriage.
Even in strict cultures guys are having sex by 25.
And no i don't believe him. She shouldn't mention she is a virgin so early on or with guys she hasnt met because it will attract the wrong guys who will see it as a challenge.

Spot on!

She should tell him she's waiting until marriage/6months/a year whatever she seems suitable for her but enough to scare off users. Ive told a few men I don't have sex till ive dated for at least 6 months, funny how they were so respectful and charming before then ghost me if I say that. She doesn't have to stick to it but knowing if he will agree will say a lot about him

@Custardslices

I sense from tells in your posts that you’re the virgin and this is about you, rather than a friend. That doesn’t effect any of the advice of course, and this is an anonymous forum so who cares, but assuming I’m right, you may want to think a little more carefully before trying to pass yourself off as someone else… It may be more important depending on when you try and do this next time!

Marriages break up too… so that’s no guarantee in this day and age.

What I’d want to know is why he’s a virgin. He should be able to give a convincing account as to why… Religious? Shy? Physical issues? You/your friend should be able to talk about your mutual virginity together and be open on what they want and when… If this isn’t possible, then there are major problems with the relationship…