Would I be a psycho to text him?

[Nsisuegavahckc]

Match with a guy online, got chatting and seemed to connect really well.

he asked me out a couple times, but due to other commitments I couldn't make it

3rd time asking I was actually free, so agreed to meet for a date

day of the date, he was quieter than usual and it was a struggle to pin down plans

2 hours before date, I ask if he actually wants to meet up due to his flakiness / lack of response

he replies he does want to meet but he's been feeling really ill today and isn't sure he's up to it

I got very frustrated at this as I felt he could have let me know a lot earlier that he wasn't well and we could have rearranged. I told him I wasn't happy he'd wasted my time and I was no longer interested. He apologised and said he understood

now looking back I think I was too rash to cut him off and I'm regretting saying that in the moment when I was disappointed.

I went to WhatsApp and apologise but seems he's blocked me.

would it be insane to text him to say sorry and see if he would like to try again for a date or should I accept I've been blocked and leave him alone

Leave it but learn from it

Just leave the guy alone

Leave him alone.

So he tried to make plans with you twice and you blew him off, third time he was poorly and couldn't make it, for which you berated him.

After this display of double standards (red flags all over) he's blocked you and shown he wishes to have no further contact.

You want to bypass this by contacting him in a different way.

Read this again, slowly. Then leave him alone and do better next time.

How many clues do you need that he's not interested?

If you were a man asking this you'd be flamed and called a stalker...

In my defence I never blew him off. It was like are you free Saturday and I would say no sorry I have such and such plans

vs when he blew me off, the date was planned, I had childcare arranged, had started getting ready etc so to be cancelled on last minute was frustrating.

as I say, holding my hands up I overreacted in the moment.

If he was interested but had been genuinely ill on the day of the date then he wouldn’t have waited till you pushed it 2 hours before the date to let you know.
Dont embarrass yourself by contacting him again if he has blocked you.

When he asked you out for a date you were busy, you should have suggested an alternative day. If you didn’t he no doubt assumed you weren’t that bothered.

I agree with everyone else saying leave him alone now. You missed your chance on this one, learn from it. If you contact him you are ignoring a boundary he has put up, if someone messaged me after I’d blocked them I would find it very weird and definitely wouldn’t agree to meet.

Again, leave him alone.

I’d be soooo annoyed 😠 if I had a sitter booked and had started getting ready

id have also written a shouty text!

He was playing games, you called him out, he didn’t like it so blocked you as realised he’d been called out.

Don't fall for this BS!

Ok ok this is the wake up call I needed 🤣 I will not be that crazy person and message him. Thanks everyone

oh god no don't, he blocked you, says it all, if he hadn't different story. (though i still wouldn't) but blocked? definitely leave it

This!

I've experienced both.

Someone who was being non-comittal on times/plans and then felt "ill" just before the date and couldn't make it. Didn't really follow up the next few days so obviously just not interested.

And someone who genuinely had something come up but was interested. He got in touch asap on the morning to apologise and reassure me it wasn't an excuse and stayed in touch during the day even though he couldn't meet up.

Some just lose interest when it comes crunch time for the date. I 100% think that's what happened in your case.

Honestly him feeling unwell when you had to chase him just sounds like an excuse anyway, if he was genuine he would of told you much earlier and try to rearrange, you weren't unreasonable to tell him it's unacceptable, I wouldn't give him a second chance either.

When I met my now dh he:

Text me the next day after we met on a night out asking to meet up.
After that first date made plans to meet again the next week.
Consistently replied to messages.
Never stood me up once or made excuses, even if he was under the weather.

This was maybe a bit different in that we’d already met so the attraction was there but the point I’m making is that if a guy likes you they will pursue you (not saying it’s ok to accept stalkerish behaviour obvs).
Id never bother with someone who was half arsed about it, it should be exciting in the beginning at the very least!

Leave it. It should not be that hard to pin down meeting someone.