over a year of on / off distant behaviour from husband of 16 years .
if I try to talk about it I’m eye rolled at . Called a nag etc. Told that I’ve made the distant behaviour last longer because I’ve tried to discuss things .
no affection . No sex .
We’ve been in therapy and things got better . But any disagreement causes this distance . Which can last for weeks . And by asking to talk about things I make it worse .
When we were in a good place our communication has always been our strong point so I don’t understand why he now shuts down instead of communicating with me .
Today I’ve been told to ‘trot on’ , sneered at and had my body language / tone of voice mimicked and mocked . Also eye rolled and putting headphones in when i try to talk .
I'm heartbroken and don’t want to disrupt the kids lives but Im so unhappy .i cry most days .
I’m yearning for him to be the man he used to be and i see glimpses but it never lasts . Physically im safe but emotionally i dont feel safe at all anymore .
The kids don’t witness this . Bit I find it hard to be a fun parent with all this going on (kids 15,12,10)
how long do you give therapy , we’ve only had a few sessions . I know I’m not perfect . I can be anxious / needy / prone to getting stressed out . But I feel I try to water myself down so I don’t cause any further discomfort .
thanks for getting this far !