Normal behaviour?

[Bethanyr2608]

I’m 30 F he’s 31 M.

On Friday we spent all night messaging back and forth until morning. (10pm - 8am) It went from having a very platonic conversation to suggesting a night of passion.

I’ve known (of) him for almost 20 years. I dated his friend briefly 10 yrs ago. I’m not sure if the conversation just got carried away in the moment or what with us both feeling horny and him sending me naked pics of his torso… he is ripped…

His mates are the ‘jack the lad’ type… however I don’t think he has even been in a (long term) relationship. I get the impression he lacks confidence IRL. He appears interested and makes cheeky innuendos but taking action to actually meet up he isn’t… but giving reasons why not…

I wasn’t looking to even beginning even speaking to another guy yet it just happened… I’ve enjoyed getting to know him over the last fortnight as we speak multiple times a day…

I am newly single after an on/ off relationship for over a decade… so I am not looking for anything serious… I’ve been out of the game for a while so I don’t really know what to expect…

He appears interested and makes cheeky innuendos but taking action to actually meet up he isn’t… but giving reasons why not…

If he's got a habit of being all mouth and no trousers, then probably best to keep your expectations low. He might just have been having a wank and no intentions to follow through.

I'd be wanting to get an actual date set up rather than continuing down the path of constant messaging and nights sexting.

And I do mean some sort of date rather than a come round to my place hook-up type thing.

(I don't see a problem with shagging on first date if you want, but - public vibe & chemistry check beforehand - plus bit of effort on both sides is mandatory to my mind.)

If he's not making solid plans to meet up, then he's probably just messing.

It sounds like he'd be up for a ONS or FWB situation and is hoping for the offer. My concern would be whether you will be seen as a conquest, because your "night of passion" will invariably go round his friendship group. Definitely insist on condoms if he's a "jack the lad" type and prepare yourself for not hearing from him again afterwards.

Sorry but it sounds as though he knows you are recently single and was just having a bit of fun because of that and hoping to impress his pals.