Sex

[Momma2024]

I am been too much or can someone relate!
So basically I have been on contraception for 9 years(after my first child) last year I had it removed to have another baby me and my bf have been together 11 years and Iv had contraception in for 4 months and basically we haven’t had sx in that time yet we was having sx when I didn’t have it in and now we aren’t, it’s always I’m tried, he’s been unwell which is understandable or he’s just not into it but 4 months really!? I’m at my wits end with it because I try literally every night but nothing he will do the touchiness through out the day but comes night time nothing, I feel like I’m begging for it at this point? I know it doesn’t make a relationship and yes we are busy people with our work sequels kids home but I just want something😩I tried talking to him the other night and he didn’t really get what I’m trying to say even to the point of ‘this is how affairs start’ to try and give him the hump(obviously no I wouldn’t have an affair) but I just don’t know what to do once the kids are in bed we are just sat downstairs for the evening even in bed we just turn over and that’s it I’ll ask but nope nothing, he’s not doing anything behind my back don’t worry but like what else am I meant to do? A girls got needs right?

I don't know why you've written sex in the title and then written s*x in the body.

I think it's a bit cruel to say to someone you love, "This is how affairs start." I wouldn't be impressed if my DH said it, and I definitely wouldn't be having sex with him.

I don't think it's unusual for couple to have dry spells when you have kids etc

However, I understand your frustration, though, and they could be a million reasons why he's not into it atm. He could be masturbating too much, struggling with his libido, suffering with his MH. It's really hard to say.

I would try talking to him again and maybe asking why it's been so long and how he feels and what's going on. Maybe suggests he sees a GP if he's having issues.

To be honest I don’t know how this site works sex was the title because that’s what my topic was about and the s*x was like that because I copy and pasted it from another group I’m in that doesn’t allow the full word or your banned, hope that makes sense. In regards to that’s how affairs start it didn’t bother him. It was more of a an example of the conversation I was trying to have with him I feel left out/pushed to aside many many people out there would then get court up in something else hens why I felt it was right because yes if you aren’t getting what you please at home how many people go to someone else ALOT! And no I wouldn’t have an Affair but it was a point I was trying to make. And not a cruel one. There’s nothing with MH he doesn’t have anything wrong going on down there or have any issues in the bedroom. And yes of course couples can go through dry spells but we've always been sexual active people and it’s drying out he use to have a high sex drive and I didn’t and it’s like it’s changed… I have tried talking a million of times to ask why and it’s always the same answer, he’s tried, he’s not feeling it, it’s late or point blank ignores me. Yes we are happy we love each but sexually I’m not

Its not an easy situation, it feels like there is something going on with him if not physically, mentally. It sounds like you are doing the right thing in talking to him and not having an affair (this would not be wise). Does he have a kink or thing that he used to like to do? You could try reigniting that old flame? Personally, if my partner were masturbating next to me in bed I would be very aroused and would want to join in (sorry for being a bit crude here).

Am I right that you now have a 1 year old baby?
That's why you went off contraception, right? You wanted to have a baby and now you have one, a very small one too?

If you do have a 1 year old baby, that would absolutely explain why he's just not in the mood at the moment. Babies are exhausting and will drain you.

I understand that it's rough for you, but be patient. It's probably just a phase.

He doesn’t want another baby.