Does it get easier?

[Erlouise]

Hi ladies

does it get easier being a single mum with no intentions of a relationship?

I’ve been single now for around 8 months, was with DD’s father for a very long time. I’ve tried dating but the men just creep me out and I end up blocking everyone.

I don’t think I’m ready to date so just working on myself now and focusing on me and DD.

but does the loneliness get easier? I feel I miss affection and intimacy and connection. But when I do date it makes me feel ten times worse as I can never get what I want from these men online.

just want some hope that being lonely becomes easier to handle.. trying to focus on making new and more friends this year so that I can have some sort of social life back now DDbis getting older…

tia x

I had no intentions of getting into a relationship with younger children in tow and had a decent plan etc… but met and married within 2 years of separating!

But yes I was happy single and had given up on dating… it was actually a positive period in my life and i look back fondly on the year and a half I had with me and the kids as a wee band of 3…

Getting some time to yourself is important though or doing things that make your heart sing… so I hope you can have a great 2025

I’ve been a single parent for about 12yrs & I honestly feel that I’m so happy and so content with my life that I’ll probably never date again.

Nurture your own interests and passions, that will go a long way with learning how to enjoy being single.

I have quite a boring life, on paper, but I’m never bored.

Good luck

I've been single for 4 years and I feel the same. And yes, on paper I suppose my life does look boring, but I'm never bored. I really enjoy this time with my kids. The longer I'm single the more I couldnt imagine having a man in my space and taking up my time 🤣

At the begining I didnt like being single but I really do love it nowadays. If I've had the odd bad day then I somtimes wish I could have a cuddle with someone bigger than me and thats all I miss really 😅

@FeegleFion @fourelementary @NameChanger91736 Thank you ladies.

definitely trying to focus on myself and learning more about me and who I am and what I like.

making friends and finding hobbies later on in life feels difficult. I’m putting myself out there and hoping for the best.

I’ll keep focusing on myself and maybe revisit dating in the future.

but yes, it’s the cuddles I miss too! lol

I think there was a time when i really missed having someone to share things with, but over the years you get used to it. I’ve been on my own 17 years now and you learn to be grateful;l for the things you have.

Nowadays it’s slightly easier because nobody wants me the way i am.

Thank you. Does this make you sad at all? And can I ask why you would think that no one would want you?