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J7223j · 04/01/2025 14:20

Moved out of London to a fairly rural town with hubby when my first was born - never really felt I fitted in the countryside is nice but i find it boring here the weather isn't great either - this was ok i plodded along the kids are now at uni/just started working and the move was good for them school wise safety etc. I am the biggest earner and constantly feel stressed I feel i need to meet like minded people but dont know where to start my office is only small and not sociable at all the small town mentality is all gossip and not much else which i find tedious. Feel its a bit empty nest after devoting so much time to kids - people here seem to revolve a lot of socialising around drinking - i barely drink. The culture is minimal too. Feel lost.

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Seaoftroubles · 04/01/2025 14:36

If you miss city life could you think about moving back? Now the children are at Uni or working if sounds like a good time to do it.

J7223j · 04/01/2025 16:21

If only unfortunately sky rocket house prices now won't be possible.

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Nexushub · 05/01/2025 05:20

The usual advice is to take up some fresh new hobbies, team sports will offer a bonding experience, sometimes they go away together for weekends or holidays.

Marrying someone who lives somewhere more interesting to you might offer a way out.

Get out of town each weekend and book yourself into somewhere cheap to stay and take advantage of the amenities and more diverse hobbies there.

Try meet.com for new mates and hobbies.

Alternatively I would reframe this time in your mind as a chance for you to finally do things for yourself and enjoy your freedom if you have spent years devoting yourself to being a wife and mother. Think of it as a chance to have fun and rest and recuperate from your years of service.

I would also suggest some therapy to help you sort this out in your mind and feel better.

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