Female friend

[Lollyp2]

My OH invited his long time female friend to spend the night at our house after a new year party of friends they had been to together.
The interesting bit is that I was working that night and he didn't bother to tell me that he was having her sleep over.

We have discussed having opposite gender staying overnight when one of us is not around but my OH clearly does not respect this.

Once I had travelled and he had the same friend stay over, he cooked for her and daytime went to the beach with her and took photos of her in her swimsuit and posted them on Facebook.He still has them on his phone.

I am worried.Is this just a friendship?

It’s pretty out of order -I certainly wouldn’t tolerate it and I’m very easy going. Shitty behaviour I’d say. Hope you’re ok.

You can't honestly think they didn't sleep together?

A "sleepover" that you didn't know about?

You must be really naive.

You deserve better. Get rid.

I used to be of the - men and women can be friends, you need help for your jealousy, mindset - then I got screwed over.

I was so laid back about bf's having close female friends, their friends sitting on his lap and sitting between us - what a nob.

It's your relationship and it's up to you what you put up with in it. I wouldn't tolerate it so I would finish the relationship. I wouldn't put up with it again.

I have just read more into his phone messages between them.
It looks like she declined to sleep over on text but later that night because he left the pub before her , he apologises for leaving without telling her then says in the text "see you tomorrow".
I dont know where they were meeting the next day.

Another time, she asked whether we could visit her and her partner who travels for work alot and isn't around most of the time.
My OH told her that I was working that evening but that he was happy to visit her at hers.
Again I wouldn't be certain that her partner was away for work.

@Theextraordinaryisintheordinary no I am not okay.
I think that I am over reacting or being jealous most of the time and end up just crying, wanting to hurt myself and then forget until something else untoward happens.

Can someone please tell me that I am not overthinking?

@Lollyp2 the fact you're feeling so strongly is enough. It feels so wrong and off and that alone is enough. You know instinctively something isn't right. Say they are just friends, this isn't ok. I'm very liberal minded and I'd find this not ok.
.you are not over reacting.

You're not over reacting.

He fancies her and he's a liar. He doesn't respect you or your relationship/commitment.

I'm sorry to be blunt, it's because I've been there and I didn't want to see it either.

You deserve better. Way better!

X

You are already hurting yourself by being with him. Throw him out.