Been with dp a few years his mum's " nice" always had a little dig here and there which I’ve always let go and in the past I've said to DP I don't think she's keen on me. On new years day we had them ( her and dps dad) round for a roast dinner and we invited my mum too. His mother was just awful to me, with constant criticism and digs and nonstop moaning. She said she was annoyed. We took the tree down and wouldn’t stop going on about it. then she moaned and asked why I wasn't serving the veg on the table because that's what she did ect, then when I said dp wants it in the kitchen she said oh right well if that’s what he wants to do it's fine 😐 I was unwell the week before with an awful bug, she brought dps daughter from school, she knew I was ill with a temp and the start of a bug but she stayed and i told her that when dp gets in I'm going bed, that got brought up and she said oh I thought you didn't like me and you got out the way of me, so then i had to justify myself and remind her of the conversation which she full well knows why i went upstairs. Then she had a go that I’d not been up and see her xmas tree, that I’d not been up for weeks, I work a Saturday and dp takes the kids up on a Saturday, so I again brought it back on dp and said you will have to ask him why he comes up when im at work and she said well you could come on Sundays so i said again ask dp, she didn’t like that and she wotn ask dp, also i see her every tuesday when she drops DSD odf so its not like ive not see her at all.
The list honestly went on. This was in front of my mum, and I could see my mum was about to say something, and i was pissed off at this point. She does it in a way that's she's not vile, but it's not very nice at all ,it was constant. I've realised she's actually not very nice at all. She just makes out she is. I've always been good, never caused any issues and I thought overall we got on and she had gone from the odd dig which i can cope with to what ever the hell that was on new years day. I think maybe now she's comfy with me she thinks she can do it and get away with it. It's also never in front of dp.
I couldn’t sleep Wednesday night and in the morning I told dp that she was just awful to me and told him what I’ve basically said on here and in front of my mum he listened and said well I didn't hear anything which as you can imagine didn't go down well with me and we fell out and he's took it that I'm " slagging" his mother off. If only he knew what I really thought, he would probably sack me off🤣
My mum rang me thursday day and asked me what on earth was up with her and asked if she's always like that. I opened up to mum who said when I was cooking all his mum did was run everyone and everything down and her words were she's just not a very happy woman and not got a good word to say and thats is stop on and its allllllll about her every concasation is about them or her!! Mum went on to say how she won't be rushing round for another familly dinner with them which is such a shame but I totally get it because if I've got anything to do with it it won't be happening for a while.
I told dp what my mum said ( minus the unhappy, not very nice part 🤣), and I think it made him realise, and he asked if he wanted me to talk to his mum. I said no but be aware the next time.
She's due next week to drop off dps child and I am dreading it, in fact I'm going to walk my mums after school with my kids and stay out the way until she's gone which isn’t ideal all because she stays for hours but I can't see her, not this week anyway. And I know that me not being there will be a problem and at a later date will get brought up.
To note, dps brother and his wife has nothing to do with her or the dad or any of the familly actually because of a familly row that i cant get to the bottom of apparently it was all dps brother wife fault,she’s vile but after this I'm starting to wonder if his mother has done this to her and this is why she has nothing to do with the family and his dp sided with her.
Any advice on how to cope with it because right now if it happens again I feel like im going to have it out with her which going by the daughter in law it eont end well. I’m gutted I really am. I love familly and being with familly but she’s crossed a massive line and to do it in front of my mum proves she doesn’t care and has no limits clearly. I'm just glad my sister wants there cuz she would of told her to back off for sure!
Any advice welcome.