Do you expect your partner to be on your side? Especially when you are going through a serious health issue.

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We have been together for 7 years, not married and no children. I am a 43 year old female and he is a 48 year old male.
Should I expect my partner to take my side when something is causing me upset? In recent situations I have been upset at how others have treated me due to my disability (I am partially sighted). I have had the disability for 3 years and it was all very sudden. For example, my employer terminated my contract as I have a disability. My partner claims that he hasn't heard their side of story so doesn't want to take sides or cant give me advice. I am not asking for advice (I have asked a solicitor/attorney for that) or to take sides but to just know that he has my back.
There are other situations where he has been there such as when his mother has been unkind. In those cases he claims it is in my head, he didn't see it or it is in the past when he didn't know what was wrong with me.
It is as if I need hard evidence but even when I do it is not good enough.
Am I expecting too much from a partner to be on my side when a situation is causing me a lot of stress?

Ideally you should feel like a team, facing life’s difficulties together. It can’t always be the case as stressors accumulate and people are distracted but overall you should be able to say that your partner generally has your back.
Repeated instances where your partner shows he doesn’t will mean you feel unsupported, unsafe and disbelieved. If you have raised this, which you have and he doesn’t care, which he apparently doesn’t, it would be understandable if you wanted to end the relationship.

He should, in general, take your side yes!

I get not seeing both sides of the story, my DH does like to hear and weigh up both sides and is generally rational - so he's great for bouncing ideas and forming plans when I'm being particularly hot headed.

That said, in the circumstances you describe about being laid off, my DH wouldn't care about the other sides story because they've hurt ME and that trumps fairness in his eyes, because he has my back and MY feelings are more important to him than a rational decision at that point.

I could see the point if you're looking for a second opinion or someone to help you work through something, then it's useful for him to know the full picture.

He doesn't sound like he's got your back though, and that's really unfair.