Hello,
I’ve realised this year that I am an introvert - I always knew this I think, but it’s taken me a while to accept and embrace this.
My DH is super extroverted. He has so many friends, goes out all the time, wants to stay out later at parties etc. He has also dated a lot, has had a lot of relationships in the past - he is faithful but quite flirtatious as well. For context, he is 13 years older than me
We do clash a bit over our different social batteries. For example, he always wants to host dinner parties. Before I moved into his house, he was very well known for throwing big parties, which he stopped// heavily changed or reduced for me. His friends reminisce about that time and I feel quite bad about being a party-pooper, but we also have small children.
He’s very popular, we live in London and I feel like I’m constantly bumping into his friends, acquaintances, ex-flings etc - this is sort of fun but I’m also a bit tired of feeling in his shadow.
Generally we compromise, but I feel tired of all our negotiations, it would be so much easier if we could just have the same social needs all the time! Does anyone else have a similar situation? How did you achieve your needs as an introvert and a mother?
Sorry, I feel like that was quite a messy post (three children under 4 - I am sleep deprived). Any thoughts welcome!