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Wwyt? Partners ex stories on social media

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:10

Before anyone jumps down my throat .
I know, I know I should not have looked but I did and now my mind is racing.

To cut a long story short I've been in a relationship with a man for over a year and it really has been pretty amazing.
It's the most healthy and happy relationship I've ever been in so I'm kind of cross with myself for even feeling this way right now... but I do.
Let's call this man Jon.

A couple of weeks ago Jon brought up a lady he had been seeing casually like an fwb situation before he met me , claiming he hadn't see her in over a year. She had never been mentioned before. I knew about his children's mum who he had a relationship with for 10 years but he had never mentioned this other lady until that evening.
The reason she came up in conversation was because he told me this lady reached out to him and sent him a txt one morning (the day b4 our conversation) her txt said why did you call me at midnight Jon ?
He said he was confused as initially he didn't even know who was msging him and had to msg back who is this ? As he had deleted all her contact info when they ended thier fwb situation as she turned a bit obsessive turning up at his home and work unannounced.
He then said he freaked out looked through his call list was very confused and replied back to her I didn't call you , it wasn't me.
She then went on to try and initiate a conversation with him but he cut it bluntly telling her he was in a relationship with me . ( I am all over his social media) see his mum and family regularly it's well known he is in a relationship if she wanted to find out.
He offered to let me look at his phone, I said no thank you , I want to trust you and I do. I really did and still do ( I think , believe him)
Fast forward to last night nye , he had to cancel our plans as he was really unwell , which again I believed.
He was gutted we couldn't spend nye together , it's a bug so we both didn't want to risk me catching it.
Today randomly this lady has been coming up as a friend suggestion on my FB.
I knew her name and where she lived as he had told me and had been open about everything to do with her.
I ignored the friend suggestion this morning, however this afternoon it's was still there.
I know I shouldn't but I looked at her fb profile. There was nothing unusual about it and it said she was single.
I could see the blue ring around her profile picture so I did it , I viewed her stories. She put 4 different memes up one after the other. Kind of cryptic memes about a man.
I'm probably putting 2 and 2 together and coning up with 9 🙄😞 but if I show them on here can you let me know if you think this is just all way too much of a coincidence??

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:16

This is the memes

Wwyt? Partners ex stories on social media
Wwyt? Partners ex stories on social media
Wwyt? Partners ex stories on social media
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DanceTheDevilBackIntoHisHole · 01/01/2025 18:16

She could be talking about anyone and if she was obsessive before then it's entirely possible she faked the 'why did you call me?' thing to prompt him to talk to her.

If you trust him then leave this alone. Who cares what she's saying on social media. Stop looking. You're only annoying yourself.

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:18

DanceTheDevilBackIntoHisHole · 01/01/2025 18:16

She could be talking about anyone and if she was obsessive before then it's entirely possible she faked the 'why did you call me?' thing to prompt him to talk to her.

If you trust him then leave this alone. Who cares what she's saying on social media. Stop looking. You're only annoying yourself.

Thank you I really needed to hear this.

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:18

I think I need to block her as she keeps coming up as a friend suggestion. I'm too tempted to look at her profile.

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Anonym00se · 01/01/2025 18:21

She sounds like a crank. But on the subject of suggested friends, my ds was talking about a friend of hers, and the next time I went on Facebook they came up as a suggested friend. I suppose it’s the same as the way they advertise things to you that you’ve been talking about. Nosy gits!

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:22

Anonym00se · 01/01/2025 18:21

She sounds like a crank. But on the subject of suggested friends, my ds was talking about a friend of hers, and the next time I went on Facebook they came up as a suggested friend. I suppose it’s the same as the way they advertise things to you that you’ve been talking about. Nosy gits!

Ah interesting. I wondered why after a year she is coming up on social media. I do truly believe he is a good guy also . We're in our 40s I found these memes very teenage to me.

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MonkeyHair · 01/01/2025 18:23

She will know that you have viewed her story, so you are going to come across to her like a bit of a stalker!

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:24

MonkeyHair · 01/01/2025 18:23

She will know that you have viewed her story, so you are going to come across to her like a bit of a stalker!

No she wont

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ohyesido · 01/01/2025 18:25

Those memes mark her out as, how can I put it....thirsty. Perhaps the type who would accidentally send a text meant for someone else or pretend to have had a missed call as an excuse to start a dialogue

DiegoVanDamme · 01/01/2025 18:25

To be honest, she sounds like a vague-booker

I know you want to look at her socials, but do yourself a favour and block her *shes probably stalking you too

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:26

MonkeyHair · 01/01/2025 18:23

She will know that you have viewed her story, so you are going to come across to her like a bit of a stalker!

It will come up as a viewer but not my name as we are not friends. My friend is a pro at social media and she told me only on Instagram it tells you who everyone is who viewed it on fb only tells you your friends that viewed and then others

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:28

ohyesido · 01/01/2025 18:25

Those memes mark her out as, how can I put it....thirsty. Perhaps the type who would accidentally send a text meant for someone else or pretend to have had a missed call as an excuse to start a dialogue

Yes I see them as thirsty also. I am so not into this and quite private about what we share on social media. Only pics of us tagged in family events go up. No public statuses or anything like that! My partner is similar it has surprised me he was actual in a situationship with someone like this as he totally different

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:30

ohyesido · 01/01/2025 18:25

Those memes mark her out as, how can I put it....thirsty. Perhaps the type who would accidentally send a text meant for someone else or pretend to have had a missed call as an excuse to start a dialogue

I also felt she msg him to get a dialogue going also. He said when they ended he tried to remain friends with her. She has no boundaries and was constantly turning up and telling him she was in love with him. They had both stated from the start that it's a fwb set up. He said he felt bad for her that's why he ended it as he said it would not have been fair to carry on as it was if she has fallen in love and he hadn't. He even said she turned up at his work with lunch for him after he ended it.

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:31

DiegoVanDamme · 01/01/2025 18:25

To be honest, she sounds like a vague-booker

I know you want to look at her socials, but do yourself a favour and block her *shes probably stalking you too

Yes your right. I'll block her

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2025HereWeGo · 01/01/2025 18:32

What did the memes refer to, OP?

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:33

2025HereWeGo · 01/01/2025 18:32

What did the memes refer to, OP?

I haven't a clue. They were on her stories today.

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Sunbeam01 · 01/01/2025 18:39

I'd just leave it now and not give it a second thought.

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 18:45

Sunbeam01 · 01/01/2025 18:39

I'd just leave it now and not give it a second thought.

Yes I will. I have blocked her now so I'm not seeing her come up all the time. This isn't like me to be such an overthinker , I think I looked way too much into all of this.

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Firstrodeo1 · 01/01/2025 18:47

If you’ve been looking at someone’s profile you’ll often show up as a friend suggestion for them. So she may have been snooping at you.

Ceeekay · 01/01/2025 19:00

She may well be using your BF as a distraction or make her current FWB person jealous perhaps.

2025HereWeGo · 01/01/2025 19:26

I think there’s a certain kind of woman who puts memes on their public stories.
Attention seeker / keyboard warrior / pot stirrer…

Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 19:51

2025HereWeGo · 01/01/2025 19:26

I think there’s a certain kind of woman who puts memes on their public stories.
Attention seeker / keyboard warrior / pot stirrer…

I did think that's she may now know we're quite serious and has looked at his fb and realised I am in his profile picture. So maybe this has hurt her and she may be trying to stir things up between us

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Goldsilverglitterball · 01/01/2025 19:52

Firstrodeo1 · 01/01/2025 18:47

If you’ve been looking at someone’s profile you’ll often show up as a friend suggestion for them. So she may have been snooping at you.

Good point

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Hoardasurass · 01/01/2025 22:07

Ok @Goldsilverglitterball if ive got this correct we have a woman with an alleged history of borderline stalking of her ex fwb, who is single (possibly newly so) who's started trying to get back together with her ex and has been shutdown and is now coming up as a possible friend on FB and she's posting cryptic memes.
The most likely explanation is that she's recently single and going back through all her ex's trying it on when she got the brush off from your partner it triggered her stalky tendencies and she looked at his sm and found you then looked at your page hence the friend suggestion and because she's a bit unbalanced she put passive aggressive memes about unrequited love and people not doing what she wants.
Solution block her on everything and ignore her crazy, your partner had a very lucky escape.

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