How to end things amicably?

[Tattyteddy2]

Hello,

My partner and I (not married) have to DC’s together, the youngest being 5 months. We live in a mortgaged house which solely in my name and he has never contributed to the mortgage. He’s paid me ‘rent’ towards other household bills into a separate account that my mortgage comes out of.

I’m no longer happy in the relationship, we pretty much live separate lives with me taking on 80% of the parenting and I often feel as though I’m just parenting an additional child I didn’t birth!

The other day he physically pushed our 2 year old and whilst I was playing hiding seek with her, she said ‘I can’t find Mummy’ to which he responded ‘Good’. This was the final straw for me.

Lots of other things but you get the idea. How do I go about it? He tends to get very defensive, raise his voice swear etc so how can I implement the separation in the most gentle way?

Thanks everyone, happy new year !

For a start don't expect him to be amicable. In fact, expect him to be truly horrible. If in a row he says "I'll go now, then" let him.

How to go about it? It's your house and you are not married. You ask him to leave by 14th January.

Do not get involved in any discussions about where he's going to go and what he's going to do. He's a lodger, if in doubt Google "how to make a lodger leave"

Just to add, if at any point you feel threatened by him, don't hesitate to call 999 and ask for the police to attend.

If he refuses to go, wait until he's at work, change the locks and pack his things and put them outside.

Hopefully it won't come to that, but be careful.