Fade out?

[Thedogatemyhouse]

I've had this friend for around 20 years. Over the past 3/4 years, contact has reduced but we've not had a falling out.

Last year, I tried to initiate a meet up for coffee/lunch whatever, and she said she'd get back to me with some dates. No contact until my birthday some 7 months later when she suggested dinner which was pleasant.
Been out for her birthday since too.

I contacted her earlier this year as I'd received some very bad news and could have done with a friend. Took her almost a month to respond to me. Again, she said let's meet up but I didn't hear from her for months.

She contacted me recently to tell me she's pregnant. I've not replied. I feel like a spiteful cow but I feel as though she's been giving me the slow fade over the last few years and I'm finding it hard to find the enthusiasm for the pregnancy.
WWYD?

I’d congratulate her on the pregnancy and wish her a happy new year, then leave it for her to contact you. Hopefully she won’t, but she might start up again when she wants some babysitting.

Honestly I'd ignore her. That slow fade is horrible but she's been clear she doesn't want to be friends so it's over between you.

Congratulate her but leave it to her to initiate contact in future. She's not really offering what you need or want in a friend so best to let things slide.

Thanks all for your replies. I think I'll just let this one go.

I'd congratulate as otherwise you look rude but I'd stop suggesting meet ups

Congratulate her and don’t keep suggesting meet ups. I had a friend like this who never wanted to meet up so I stopped suggesting the same or chasing. It fizzled out.

What strikes me about your post, OP is that when you had bad news and needed a friend, you got in touch with someone you’d had only very sporadic contact with for several years. I don’t think you’re on those kind of terms with this person any more, even if you once were. Don’t you have anyone you’re closer to now?

@Frangelicoo I do have people I'm closer to now but given the length of time I've known her, I did reach out to her for some support. I shall not be doing that again though.

This has recently happened to me. Best friend known for around 16 yrs. when I lived near her I would always go to hers it just seemed easier for her. She confided in me and not with any of her other friends. I moved 1 hr away 3 years ago and not once did she make any effort to come over etc. The last time I spoke to her was oct usually it Would be around every two wks always on a Sunday which was convenient for her more so. I had to have a few gynae procedures done in Nov she knew about these but heard nothing so I just l left it as I couldn't be arsed with chasing when she never did. I was sad and confused now I think she will never change so what's the point. X