New relationship - he described it as “random and fun”

[HangryZebra]

Ok I might be being a drama queen here. I’m hormonal so it doesn’t help haha.

But literally I have been in a relationship with a guy for 6 months. We met via work (he was once a client but isn’t now) We have been on many many dates, we see each other regularly, we actually text every single day throughout the day (not like every minute of the day but like a few messages each day back and forth) he stays over mine and I stay over his a lot. Everything to me is going in the right direction.

we aren’t spending new years together as he is visiting his dad in Scotland. Today I sent him a text a long the lines of “thank you for making my 2024 so great, our relationship was a lovely suprise but I’m pleased we finally told each other how we were feeling and I’m so grateful for the time we’ve spent together this past year, here’s to the future”

The reply I got back, “Thank you too, you look stunning in your dress. Yes it’s been random but very fun”

am I being dramatic or is random and fun a bit of a kick in the teeth?!? He is not the best texter and he will admit that but I don’t know random and fun feels a bit 🙈🙈

Another one saying the same- not everyone is good at texting sentimental or romantic messages, his was agreeing with you and saying it's unexpected and fun, and that you look nice in your dress. So he was being nice back. I'd just enjoy the relationship and let it evolve OP, six months is still early days really.

Personally, i think your message was a bit too gushy for a 6 months relationship/dating period and is giving this-is-becoming-a-serious-relationship-for-me vibes.
His message comes across, you-are-great-and-very beautiful-but-i-am-not-looking-at-it-in-a-serious-relarionship-type-of-way.

It seems at this point in time, you are more into it/him/more invested than he is. So, If I had sent someone a message like yours, i would be unhappy with that response.

Having said that, well done on you at kind of letting him know where you are at. Hope it all works out.

Agree that your message may have been a bit gushy if you don’t say this kind of thing IRL to each other, but it was honest.
I think his message back is a bit more reserved but isn’t saying “let’s cool it off” maybe just more “back away from the mush, I like you but let’s not get ahead of ourselves”. He wouldn’t have complimented you if you were being mugged off. I wouldn’t overthink this or try to respond or bring up this text exchange again. Let your next messages between each other just be more business as usual. You are doing the right thing in not hiding your hopes from him though. Acting like the “cool girl” and wasting time on someone not interested in a relationship never ends well for anyone.

He’s making it sound casual for him I think.

I think this is a nice ish reply yea it's not gushing with soppiness (is that a word?) but I take it as random like where tf did this come from as in unexpected, but fun like u two are fun together and he's really enjoying it and not as what someone else wrote that youre a bit of fun. He's meaning the times you have had are fun.
Its good. Don't read too much into it, men are shit at stuff like this and it prob took him all
day to type those words out without sounding a pleb or too enthusiastic or not enthusiastic enough or not bothered but oh no stalker alert does he need to put a ring on it but fk will I scare her off kind of message.