The moment you realised you were no longer in love with an ex?

[WhimsicalGubbins76]

Was there anything specific? Was it several things?
I was asked today how you know if you’re no longer in love with your partner-and I really struggled to give a definitive answer.

With my ex (many years ago) it was all the broken bones he gave me that made me fall out of love 🫣 so I’ve never experienced that unexpected decline into a loveless relationship

I put up with drinking and lies for the sake of the kids, then one day I realised that he wasn’t going to change. He said he would, but made no effort whatsoever.
You only get one life, and it will be shorter than you want, so make yourself happy.

Your level of disgust towards them starts to increase.
I started being grossed out by the noise of him eating, blowing his nose, snoring, weeing - everything really.
I also started to enjoy when he was out of the house and if he went away for a few days I didn't look forward to him coming back. Just wanted my own company.

That’s really helpful, thank you. And food for thought too. The day my DHs weeing really starts to consistently piss me off I’ll know I’m in trouble.

Sorry 🤣 it’s not a laughing matter but that did actually rise a giggle out of me.

@greatvisuals from what she’s already told me, I think the way she’s feeling is very much how you describe (though I have to say, I’m relieved. They’ve been together nearly 20 years and I’ve always thought he was a twat)

When they came to apologise later down the line for cheating on me after being cheated on themselves and 'now knowing how it feels' and rather than feel grateful or vindicated I just struggled not to laugh at how pathetic they now seemed.

Looking back I think he was hoping for a pity shag. He did not get one.