Having spent a bit of time over Christmas with family, I realise I don't get on with my brother anymore and we have different views. But I don't know if my feeling of dislike is fair?
He is 31 and i'm 35. He is living at home at the moment after a long term relationship breakdown but has found somewhere and is moving early next year. When the family got together over Christmas we ended up having a few arguments/clashes.
Topic turned to dating. Both me and my brother are dating on apps at the moment but neither of us been successful in finding a relationship yet, I have been on them for about 5 years, him a year after his relationship breakdown. He said that women have it much easier than men, and that a lot of women are shallow and only care about height, job and income. I told him that isn't true and if anything he is shallow himself as he has been on dates and then rejected nice girls because he 'didn't fancy them enough' or because 'they didn't look like their photos'.
Other things we clashed over were his view that men shouldn't have to pay for a woman on dates, I said its not expected, but it is nice, he says 'why?' and I explained its nice to feel treated to which he said 'why shouldn't I be treated?' and that men and women are supposed to be equal in this day and age, a man paying for a women is outdated and that women expect chivalry when it suits them but claim to want to be 'independent' most other times.
He is completely not how I remember him to be, he is obsessed with going to the gym now, tracking calories and lifting weights. In the past year he has had cosmetic surgery on his nose and had braces on his teeth. He is huge due to the weight lifting now. His response to a clothing item he opened as a present was 'Well I won't be wearing that for any date' I said why and he says he won't get a girl wearing it.
I've just been surprised by his attitude and obsession with looks and not sure if this is normal for a man of his age or not.