I spilt up with my husband 3 yrs ago , we have been on good terms talking and being civil cause we have a child together. He is a alcholic so for the past month he has been told to not drink when my son is there he has been no too bad but just over a week.ago my ex mil picks my son up has him a few hours then drops him of with his dad he walked in and asked if he had been drinking , he replied no but had been she shouldn't have dropped him then . So my ex mil just opens my door and walks in ti my house every week going to a lawyer to see if I can stop it. Xmas day my ex husband came to see my son his mother took my son to her bit to see if santa had been to her house ,she dropped my son of and didn't leave a gift for my older son who has been a part of that family for 23 years I think it's shocking not getting him a present this is the first year its happened . Tried speaking with the ex to say its unelectable behaviour ,he turned it on me by saying why would they get him a present when he doesnt buy them.one . Just didn't have my back trying to turn it on me. Go back a further 4 years his sister called me a bad mother ex never questioned it either. So I'm now going to go to a lawyer regarding access for my son.but don't want my son going full weekend to these nasty people