Hello,
In desperate need of some impartial advice as I'm really struggling and been hit for 6 the last 12 months.
I've been with my partner for 7 years and we have a 2 yr old child together. Before we had our wonderful baby I was under the impression that we had a good strong relationship with no real issues. Since the baby arrived my partner has totally changed. They're snappy and quite aggressive in nature. I found out in February that they were secretly drinking and were constantly lying to my face when I confronted them asking if they'd been drinking. They even sweared on loved ones lives whilst looking me dead in the eye. Turned out they were drinking and they have confronted the issue and joined AA and not had a drop since (as far as I'm aware)
Then 10 days ago at a mortgage advisor appointment (we're in the process of moving house) I found out they were in 33k debt and I was told it was 13k 7 yrs ago and that they'd been reducing it ever since. I can't cope with the betrayal. They said they'd get a second job and do everything in their power to make everything right again even giving me access to their credit report etc. So we were trying to move forward. Then yesterday we were talking about our issues and my partner started hiding their phone and acting oddly. Turns out they were recording our conversation!!! Who does that and for what purpose?!?
I feel like all trust has gone but I don't want to split my family up and they are a good parent and usually a good partner. What should I do... I feel so broken?