My brother and family live a ten minute walk away yet the only time I see my brother is when it's a birthday (or when he needs something). My sister inlaw has never been in our house, about 6 years ago. 99% of visits are on the doorstep. Over the years I've invited the round before Xmas for a get together with parents too. I've given up now as excuses are made as being too busy, once a flipping year.
I think around Christmas I get wound up. My mum rang me today to say they'd been round brother's for a buffet.
My brother will ring up put of the blue because he's broken down, of course I will help out. But to be honest I'd feel crap calling on him if I don't communicate for months on end. Am I a mug or an old whinger?