I posted a short while ago about my horrible ex. I've had 3 narcissistic relationships in my life, as a by-product (IMO) of narc parents and feel 'lucky' that I didn't turn out like them. Two were really serious full on narc abuse and I have always felt grateful that I got out of these, but disappointed in myself that I didn't recognise each time I got involved with another. It took me an extraordinary long time to realise that part of the reason I got involved in relationships like these is because I was a romantic, and I loved the love-bombing; I just didn't recognise what it was at the time. I'm older and wiser now.
The ex started his smear campaign many years ago. However, in October 24 he was forced to have to contact me as part of our on/off r'ship, as he had abused his elderly mother, and a DVPO was issued against him. Having nowhere to live, he asked if he could stay with me. One of his (many! There always is!) female friends asked him how he felt about 'having to live' with me - that part I recall him telling me, but I don't remember his answer. It did ring a alarm with me at the time.
Today I've learned that he contacted one of my employers (I have two jobs) and made all sorts of allegations about me, which my employer declined to comment on - he said that it was 'all sorts of shit' and that they wanted to support me. Whilst I'm grateful and this won't affect my job there, there's nothing that I can do about this to stop it all and what really chokes me is I'm the 6th woman he's done this to, and of course, it will happen again. And it's that which sticks in my craw - not being able to do anything about this BS and the injustice of it all . The frustration and anger at the fact that none of his behaviour comes to light or is really taken to account via the police - I know gossip dies down eventually, but the anger and desire to 'sort it out' is beginning to really boil in me.
No purpose other than to vent. I would happily see him get what's coming to him so to speak, but I just don't think that day will happen. I fantasise about another relationship properly dragging him through the courts to see him with a (further) conviction, but that would mean he would have to abuse that person too and I don't want that. The fury of the injustice of it all whilst I am being dragged through the mud.... 😡😡