Been together for over 20 yrs. There's so much to go into. Partner has always been jealous even of my friends. We ended up moving away which I actually wanted to do and I don't regret it. Partner says I never show him affection and that's why he is insecure I think i don't show him affection because I hold resentment. I grew up with a step dad that sexually and physically abused me, I wasn't allowed to have friends and wasn't allowed to go anywhere. With my first boyfriend it was pretty much the same. With my partner he doesn't like me having male friends, getting agro and stops talking to me if I want to do things with friends (especially if it involves alcohol or going out.. even for lunch or dinner). Whinges if we only have sex once a week.
He smokes and drinks. We are in debt up to our eyeballs and never have money to do things we want to do or go on holidays. He has social anxiety and he doesn't believe in getting help.
We had things happen with our daughter with sexting and online stuff so now he is controlling with her. Gets agro if she wants too hang with friends because he's scared the online stuff will happen again. His behaviour is causing mental health issues with our kids. He has a short fuse. But is never physical abusive. When I try to talk to him he just puts it all back on me but everyone else around us even our own kids can see he is the problem.
I want to help him get past this as I don't want to leave but dealing with this for 20+ years takes it toll.
There is so much more i could write that's not even half of it