Laziness

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I am at my wits end with my partner .
His laziness is making me a crazy woman and I don't like it .

I'm up every day with our 4yo , he lays in bed . He won't get up if he doesn't have work , except to go to the loo or get food . I go up and ask if he's getting up today .. I'm nagging apparently!

Even when he has got work he leaves at the last minute and sometimes just doesn't go in !

It really makes my blood boil. I do everything round the house on my own , if I moan about it I'm the bad guy . It's 16:50 now and he's still in bed . I feel like crying and I'm so deflated by it . I think I was happier when I was a single mum of my eldest .. as at least there was no expectations from someone to help !

I'm sure I've missed bits out , so ask away . Any advice please

Bin him.

What benefit do you get from him? Money??

Is he depressed? Ill? An addict? Have insomnia?

Has he always been like this?

Been with him six years , hasn't always been like this . Engaged this year.

Dump him. A boyfriend is for massively enhancing your life and bringing peace and fun. This man is a deadbeat, a parasite and an embarrassment.
There's absolutely no reason to keep him in the house.

Cross posted
Ew, don't legally shackle yourself to someone who has now shown you he's a misogynist.

He was up til 4am . He's just a lazy sod

Did anything trigger this behaviour like a bereavement or stress? Is he depressed?

It's very unusual to spend all day in bed and miss work, especially if this is new behaviour.

Is it just laziness or is he ill? Or mentally ill?

Cross posted. So he's just lazy. He stays up all night, drinking? He's disengaged from family life, does nothing around the house and you support him like a servant.

I am parked opposite an older couple, (we are on a campsite) and he makes my blood boil on her behalf.
She cleans the van in the morning. Brings out drinks, makes lunch, gets the laundry done etc. He sits on his lounger drinking coffee and smoking until about four o’clock when they go up to the bar to socialise.
If she does sit down for five minutes he usually asks her to do something for him. Yesterday she peeled his orange for him, broke up the segments and picked off the white bits! Yes, I should not be watching but they are in my line of vision when I’m sitting at my little table in my van.
Do not become this couple! Your husband sees you as his service human and does not want to hear any complaints or malfunctions.

Is he the father of the child? What would you say if a friend asked your advice in the same situation?