Just need advice

[Secondtimemum24]

I don’t have many friends so I need some advice …
Me and my partner have a 9 month old baby and been together 5 years the pregnancy was up and down we argued/bickered a lot.

Baby was born and I did everything like all nappies, baths, feeds, everything… it’s his first my 3rd. Theyre teens ..

We’ve had it so up and down I definitely have suffered with postnatal depression did with all my others too depression runs in my family - I’m on top of that now taking tablets …

A few weeks ago we had a massive argument I told him to leave - however like always I backtracked and he’s still here …

I can see small changes but we still haven’t had sex since one time when I was pregnant - I sometimes feel like kissing me hugging me is forced - don’t get me wrong we’ve just had Christmas and he got me some nice gifts and he shows that he loves all the kids I just know he does. But I’m unsure if he’s here just fr the kids you know …

I dunno the purpose of this just curious as to other opinions of people that don’t know me ….

Its impossible to guess what his feelings are. Have you actually sat down with him and had an honest chat? If not l suggest you start there before you make any decisions. You've struggled with post natal depression, and it doesn't sound like he helped you with the new baby.. why was that? Also what was the cause of the huge argument that pushed you to tell him to leave?

We’ve had lots of conversations he said he does love me.
he didn’t help with stuff like that his answer was she has the best mum who’s doing it .. I thought maybe he was nervous about doing stuff as never done it before but I’m not so sure -
the argument before was started by something small and then it escalated … in the argument he said some really nasty things and I lost it and said leave then .. and

I think you need to be open with him about the things that are upsetting you, make sure he is more involved with the baby for a start. Also tell him you miss the intimate side of your relationship and want to resume that so you can feel more connected.That would be a good starting point.