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Caught him texting another girl

14 replies

Ginajo80 · 27/12/2024 14:35

We have been dating a little over 2 years, I went through his phone and found he had texted a girl was flirting, he told her she was beautiful and that he would like to have her for lunch. He only texted her one day then blocked her. He said the girl approached him at a gas station and gave him her number. He says he has never had that happen before and was shocked. He says he liked the attention. Says there is no excuse for what he did but he thought I no longer liked him and missed us texting like that. I do get mad at him a lot over stupid things. And he takes it as I don’t want him around. Now I feel hurt and a little distant. Help?

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Chowtime · 27/12/2024 14:37

What sort of help were you hoping for? I don't think there's much any of us can actually do to be honest.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 27/12/2024 14:42

He's been sniffing around at least one other woman that you know of and gives you excuses that would be insulting the iq of a small tub of cottage cheese.
He's not worth your time and energy.

Original poster
Ginajo80 · 27/12/2024 14:42

I’m not sure what to do? Stay and work it out or let him go cause I’ve always heard once a cheater always a cheater

OP posts:
Pinkissmart · 27/12/2024 14:44

Why would you want to stay and work it out? surely one of the points of dating is to determine if they are appropriate life mate material. Do you want a long term partner who texts other women and then keeps it secret?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 27/12/2024 14:45

Well, he's proven himself a disloyal coward at best so if that's what you want in a man, crack on.

Whatever you decide to do - don't expect him to be anything other than what he has shown himself to be.

TwistedWonder · 27/12/2024 14:45

He’s obviously lying about this random woman just giving him her number so what else is he lying about?

He’s chasing other women (she won’t be first or last)

This would be an absolute deal breaker for me. He’s looking to cheat - find your dignity and bin him

And I’d say the fact you go through his phone speaks volumes about you not trusting him

MummyJ36 · 27/12/2024 14:48

Women don’t generally hand out the phone numbers at gas / petrol stations! Think of any woman in your life, would she ever do that to a random bloke she spotted and liked the look of? I’m assuming not. His story is bullshit. If you stay with him you stay with him with the knowledge that he’s lying.

Chowtime · 27/12/2024 14:51

Ginajo80 · 27/12/2024 14:42

I’m not sure what to do? Stay and work it out or let him go cause I’ve always heard once a cheater always a cheater

Ah ok.

Well for me, it would depend how desparate I was. If I was really really desperate I'd date a man who would fuck any other woman any opportunity he got. If I wasn't desperate, I wouldn't tolerate such behaviour, I'd rather be single.

Thats what I would do.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 27/12/2024 14:52

MummyJ36 · 27/12/2024 14:48

Women don’t generally hand out the phone numbers at gas / petrol stations! Think of any woman in your life, would she ever do that to a random bloke she spotted and liked the look of? I’m assuming not. His story is bullshit. If you stay with him you stay with him with the knowledge that he’s lying.

I know. Ridiculous isn't it?

Women really do not go around approaching random men at petrol stations. That's more something a man would think women might do because men do it and they're too thick to realise there are differences in the typical behaviours of men and women.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 27/12/2024 14:52

He said he enjoyed the attention, so he will be at it again soon.

Pinkbonbon · 27/12/2024 14:55

So he was the one acting morally bankrupt and he's tried to pin that on you? Fuck that!

Fuck people who cheat and try to blame you for it.

Also, how do you know he didn't simply move her texts to another phone? He could have texted her from a new phone like 'hey this is my new number' and continued contact.

Gas station thing is bullshit too.

I'd bet my ass he has a dating ap. Perhaps on a hidden phone.

petermaddog · 27/12/2024 15:22

worked in a bar lots of woman gave men their number

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 27/12/2024 15:24

And if she'd given him her number in a bar, your experience would be relevant.

But she apparently walked up to him at a petrol station.

Very different.

Jostuki · 27/12/2024 16:08

Break down what he said.

A random woman approaches him and gave him her number so he called because he felt unwanted!

Translation - He's telling you that he's gods gift to women and you're not giving him the level of attention he needs so if you don't up your game he's going to be waggling his penis at other women.

He's already making you self doubt yourself and blaming yourself - 'I do get mad over stupid things' - when it's his shitty behaviour that needs to addressed.

Personally, I think he's a douche bag who will lay the blame of any wrong doing on others rather than take any responsibility.

In this case it's the femme fatale at the petrol station who snared him and forced him to flirt with her.

Oh come on, wake up and smell the coffee and dump him.

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