Holiday romance confusion

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Hi everyone,

I have a longer term partner but we have grown distant over the past couple of years. We spend less quality time with each other and I often find him talking more about himself. I also love travelling and he doesn't share the same passion as I. So I recently went on holiday alone via a group travel company. There was a mixture of ages and types of people from various countries. One of the solo travellers I got on well with was a male from England. He is also 4 years younger than me. I found him attractive but didn't actively pursue anything. Others on the trip did mention how well we got on.

Halfway during the trip he tried to kiss me two times. I didn't do anything with these advances and tried to make it seem that I simply didn't notice. However one evening after going out for a meal and having some drinks he asked me if he was wasting his time and if I was interested. He also told me that he really liked me. I mentioned that it is complicated as I have a long term partner, although I'm not 100% happy with it in it's current form. Long story short we did end up kissing and sleeping with each other, which made me feel guilty. But on the other hand I felt alive.

For the last couple of days of the holiday he was very affectionate, we spent a lot of time with each other and asked me lots of questions from what art I liked, to what my parents are like. On the last day we had a meal alone together where he mentioned that if I wanted to travel again for me to let him know. Previously he did also ask me if I thought it was a holiday romance to which I said I couldn't really answer as I wasn't expecting this to happen. I did say that I would miss him and he also mentioned that he would miss me.

From his side he also has been seeing someone on and off in England for the past year and a half. He also said his situation was somewhat complicated too and did mention that it was probably a bad relationship.

Since coming back I have missed him and his company. I did message him to say happy Christmas and we have text each other. However I feel that I have initiated it and he has been somewhat slow to respond.

I feel a bit confused in general. Was it just a holiday romance? Should I have been more communicative with him and my feelings? What should I do!? Am I going mad 😂

I'm hoping someone has also been in a similar situation.

I think you should both sort out your existing relationships and when you are both single then you can think about meeting up again.

You cheated on your long term partner, I would work on ending that and sorting your life out.

So you both cheated on your partners and now want to know if it’s anything more than a quick holiday shag?

Id say put it down to experience and deal with your relationship rather than chasing someone else.

Break up with your current partner before you start thinking about someone else

You've cheated on your partner so you need to own up or end that relationship before you do anything else.

Yes it was just a holiday fling. You both have other relationships. Are you from England too? Otherwise how do you see this panning out if you were both single?
The thing about holiday romances is the holiday - you are both outside your normal life and rules don't seem to apply. You know it's not going to go beyond the time of the trip so there's a sense of throwing caution to the wind.
Remember Shirley Valentine?

All you both know is you're liars and cheats. No one is this naive, unless you're looking for a story to sell to Take a Break.

You’re using very romanticised language to describe how you cheated on your boyfriend.

You’ve done the wrong thing.

End your relationship and work on yourself.

You cheated simple as that.
Grow up and own up in stead of using loving words to pass it off.
How would you feel if your oH done it to you.
Tbh you need to end it and stay single for a while to work on yourself.
However this is MN someone will be along soon to tell you to keep your mouth shut and say nothing.