I was friends with a woman for nearly 20 years who I knew at school. We didn’t see each other for a while then 5 years ago we met a few times and she seemed lovely as before she was a good friend but could be sarcastic at times.
The last time I met her on November 2019 we met up and I had been off work ill for months and had long term viral issues with really bad chest pains. At the time I did not know I had anaemia which was causing this excruciating pain. She said I was lazy for not working and emphasised the work lazy when she said it. I didn’t say anything as I was unwell and had not got the energy to confront her. I felt if it could not get any worse I was judged by a friend. Some people in society are judgy about unemployment yet when she had depression and was signing on I never judged her.
After that I blocked her on social media and my WhatsApp then a few weeks later she sent a birthday card and Christmas card I never responded.
I got back into a new job a few months later as I needed money as I had no income. It took a few years to sort my health out while I was working full time which thankfully my health is good now.
Recently I have thought about her as I know she still lives at home and her family home was sold when I drove past. I looked on Instagram as I had started a new account and found out her mum passed away last year and she said she hit rock bottom. I know it must have been hard as she was a carer as her mum had MS for 40 years.
At time I do miss her as she could be a good friend. I really wish I confronted her at the time as she probably wonders why I cut her off and I should not have allowed her to be so disrespectful but I had not got the energy. I don’t like ghosting people.
Is it worth unblocking her on Facebook? I unblocked her on WhatsApp out of curiosity. I feel I always have these what ifs because I never said my piece.