My mum left my dad when I was 14. He brought me and my younger sister aged 12 up. We had no contact with my mum it was a very toxic break up. At 18 I got back in contact with mum I moved in with her and things were going well. She was in a relationship with the man she left my dad for. She took a lot of alcohol this got worse and caused a lot of rows between us. Her relationship broke down and she turned to alcohol on a deeper level and then lost her license to drink driving. She got into a new relationship with a man and moved him into the house I was 21 at the time she constantly picked rows and forced me out of the house. I was able to afford a flat by myself. From the age of 21 to 29 I had no contact with her at all. She reached out to me a couple of years ago, my grandmother doesn’t keep well and for her sake I felt it best to leave what happened in the past build bridges and move on with a relationship with my mum. She appeared to be sober and in a more stable frame of mind. In the meantime my sister has been struggling with alcohol addiction is in an abusive relationship which she lies about and the same as my mother has lost her licence for drink driving. Her and my mother had no contact until 6 months ago. I know what my sister is like, she is all about money and uses people so she can fund her addiction therefore we dont have much contact. Ever since my mum got back in touch with my sister she has cut me off. I have tried to explain to her my
Sister is using her for financial gain and the lies she has told. My Mum won’t listen and has fallen out with me over it again by picking rows and causing tension. She has cut me out of her life again and is solely focused on my sister and having a relationship with her even though she has been warned to be careful and once she stops throwing money at her she will be nowhere to be seen. I feel so let down and hurt that I let her back into my life I had built up a safe space in a new village with my brilliant husband and had healed from my hurt in the past. This time it hurts so much worse and I just don’t know what to do or how to over come this. I am adamant I can’t give her a third chance it’s not worth the heartbreak.