Yes, i have changed my details for this post, read on and you will understand why. Have been in talk for several months now and have been encouraged by the amount of support & understanding that people are able to give no matter what the situation (serious or just embarrassing). Firstly i know that this is trivial compared to many of the issues that are raised here and therefore comes under the embarrassing genre but this is something that i am struggling to understand about myself.Here goes.. my ex boyfriend used to occasionally be quite rough when we had sex, not all the time but sometimes. He would spank me and pull my hair and generally be quite harsh. i didn't really like it that much but i knew he really did so i didn't mind. My husband of ten years (3 snooks)has always been very tender and when we make love it is always very sensual & loving which i like very much.
But (there had to be a but!)for the last 2 or 3 years i have had found myself craving what i occasionally had with my ex, i have tried to put this to dh but to no avail and i don't understand why i want to be manhandled in such a way as i didn't particularly like it at the time! What's wrong with me? My ex was very much a man's man and DH is more of your archetypal "new man". As much as i love my DH and our intimacy sometimes i just want to be "taken" and shagged hard! what does this say about our marriage and my feelings towards my ex, i am totally over him, it was me who ended it but he enters my fantasies more & more.
Help!
Becks holds head in hands and awaits responses with trepidation.