Bf of 14 months or so
both 40s, both with our own kids
him widowed, me divorced
its been going really well, we started off quite light and casual then had. A big chat 6 months in and decided to make a proper go of it, admitted we loved each other.
Not on a path to blending families, we live about 15 mins away from each other and see each other a few times a week. I stay over alternate weekends when my kids are with their dad.
All good.
we’re good at talking through things and being open (or trying to be!) as we both weren’t used to that in previous relationships.
Obviously it’s still early days but we are committed
we were idly chatting today and he said how he’d like to live somewhere bigger (he has a very small house in a desirable commuter town). Then talked about moving completely when his child leaves home maybe back to where he’s from which is about 4 hours away.
He talked about it in terms of just him doing that.
(I’ve got significant roots in this area so he would probably know I wouldn’t be up for moving anyway, and my youngest is younger than his by a few years).
my rational head says of course he might think about moving to be nearer his family. And of course we don’t know if we’re still together.
But my instinctive reaction was to feel upset that he doesn’t see his future with me in it. Or that’s how it came across.
I imagined that we’d see how things go but if we are still happily together when kids have left home that we’d move in at that point or maybe move to the same village.
Am I being over sensitive and silly? Or would others find this upsetting.