Do you talk about your friends with your DH / DP

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DH makes horrible faces if I ever discuss my friends with him. He's said, he has little to no interest in my friends and that I bore him when I start talking about my friends.

I think his attitude is very unkind and it wouldn't kill him to fake interest in something i consider important.

He likes hearing about my friends and family.
When we were first together I would say something that had happened to my sister or remark I spoke to my sister. He then reminded me I have four sisters so which one was it. After 28 years he knows the sister because of the story or revelation. I know it’s stereotyping but they are all so very different we have EarthMother, gentle soul, hard as nails, Barbie doll.

I was going to say he's strange to get exhausted just listening to you talk, then you gave an example.

Just tell him stuff he might be interested in, that's what most people do.

My DH loves all my friends and has great craic with them. We also mix with them as couples/families, so much so that our older kids are very close to 1 of the couples kids and go out independently with them.

Yes, but it’s not her baby! I actually don’t know how many children my best friend’s brother has. He lives in France and I haven’t met him in a very long time.

But I’m not sure I’d have even managed 30 seconds of feigned interest if DH started telling me his friend’s brother’s wife had a baby.

Sure, if there’s something unusual — the baby was delivered on the roadside and is being named after the paramedic! The baby is not the brother’s child, but his wife’s affair partner is the dad! The baby is being named Satchmo Thelonious Smith because the mother is a jazz fiend!

But ‘My friend’s brother had a baby’ would get a ‘That’s nice’ from me.

Yes I tell him bits and pieces like if they’ve changed job/bought a house/got a dog/whatever. I never ever tell him anything that’s going on in their personal life that they’ve told me in confidence. That’s one of my absolute pet peeves - your friendship is with your friend, not them and their partner!

(Sorry to derail I just had to get it out 😂)

He's rude and not interested in you either probably

Yeah all the time. He's interested - or does a cracking impression of someone who he is. It's not normal to not be interested in your partner's life.

I'm interested in my husband's life, less so that of his friends and even less his friends brothers.

I think it’s pretty normal to speak to eachother about your friends etc. Within reason.