I don't know if I want to be with dp or on my own

[bogie]

Thats it really we are going through some tough times and its getting us both down and he is acting alot different since he started his new job.
Things seem calmer when he isn't here but I do still love him and need him here to help finacally and with ds.
There are so many reasons I am feeling like this but I can't really be bothered to type them all.
I don't trust him as much as I used to.
I'm just feeling down we just had another argument as soon as he came in so now he has gone to bed in a strop.
Has anyone felt like this and how did it turn out?

sometimes you have to look at your relationship and decide wether you need to be with each other for each other, or if it is because it makes life easier.
your life sounds very complicated at the mo though, what with your sil and all.
it might just be easier to concentrate on your lo and your preganancy and leave any hassles 'till after the baby is born, and then if you and your dp are still not getting on to well, think about how you can make changes for the better for all of you.

You said he is different since starting a new job-he must be under a lot of stress.

And you still love him.

Yes, you're still arguing, but you are both under a lot of stress. He has a new job, and you're at home with ds which is also stressful.

Can you arrange for ds to be minded and have some time alone together?

You say that you need him for help with ds and his money. That must be awful for him to feel used like that too. Imagine coming home from work, a busy stressful job, to someone who isnt happy to see him. You just want what he offers.

You said you love him though-so try and show him that