Has anyone experienced a change in relationship with sibling since having their own children?
I have been close with only sister during our adulthood, we are in our 40s now and had my first baby this year. My sister is single and child-free. My whole family is in another country, so inevitably communication and connection is harder. We do however speak/ text very often and we visit twice/ three times a year.
My sadness with my sis is that when I announced my pregnancy and after having my baby is a bit cold. Her initial reaction was cold/ weird (asked me if it was planned!) and has not been as enthusiastic or interested in comparison to other people. She is not a baby person and I wasn’t either before having a child. To give an example, she has not called me while I was in hospital or once I was back home to give me space but I felt neglected by it. On another occasion while I was pregnant and were back home, she asked my husband to go and find her and friends for drinks as I was at home feeling nauseous. She is quite short on the phone/ text too and occasional asking for photos of the baby. On the other hand she is sending me funny reels all the time, but wouldn’t think of this as a real connection…
.On the contrary, I feel much closer with my mum and other family members who have been very supportive and positive.
Have others had similar experiences? Do sibling relationships adjust? I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel, as it may be my expectations/ hormones rather than her.