Need advice

[Peanut1001]

Hello please be kind as I don't post here a lot I mainly just read them and see if any advice can relate to me and help but today I need advice on this.
So... a couple of nights ago I was emptying the dryer and a ring fell out of the filter.. must admit it's beautiful silver with a black onyx stone in it at first I thought it was one of my sons until I asked them... it's not. It's silver with a 925 stamp inside too so I know it's not theirs it also has flowers on. I asked if they'd found it etc and nope... then the same day when I'd wet vacced the bedroom I'd emptied the water tank and found 2 false eyelashes! I've never worn them before in all my life. Again asked my sons and nope... never seen them. Until I'd asked my partner.... now the sheer white that passed over his face with shock was unreal, he denied it of course claiming he'd never seen them etc and maybe they were mine and that the eyelashes had been walked in the house.. but my gut is screaming at me the more and more I try not to think about it. What do I do? Everytime I try to speak to him about it he shuts off and stonewalls me saying it's all in my head and I'm paranoid and looking for an argument. Also... he knows I have anxiety and trust issues but he won't communicate with me at all. Please help and give me some advice on what to do. He's Also very conscious of how clean his car is especially inside which bugs me. Many thanks and merry Christmas to you all xx

Sorry op :( I think you very clearly know what this is :( Him denying it proves it. If it really wasn't his OW he would be as puzzled as you to know how this has happened.

Very true thankyou for your reply it's very appreciated. I've tried to speak to him again and he just shakes his head and changes the topic very quickly. He denies cheating etc but I'm so confused right now and don't know what to do. X

See if he leaves his phone unattended anywhere near you or his bag around. I bet he doesn't.

Do you have a joint bank account? Do any bank statements come straight to the house? I would look through everything for evidence but it will be harder to find now as he knows you're suspicious.

But the look on his face when you raised the eyelashes tells you what you need to know tbh.

Show him the pretty ring you found. Don’t tell him where you found it or that you suspect it’s his.

Wear the ring and say nothing

Take photos of the ring and hide it.

Sorry to hear this. Personally, I would place the ring by his bedside table and not say a single word. Keep note of it and anything you find suspicious, place it somewhere he will find it without saying anything.

Alternatively, and this could be far fetched and just how my mind works, but is there any chance he could have been wearing them himself? Unless he has a history of cheating. Is that a possibility?

Hello all so since finding the ring ive found another in his car! He's claimed it is one of my sons lmao now its a chunky silver thick band one plain as heck. I've never seen my sons wear this or have ever seen it! Along with blonde long hair in the car the seat constantly moved and him apparently doing "overtime " at Christmas.
There's a new girl started at his work he claimed he told me but he didn't id remember i know I would... but when I asked what she was like he got defensive and said " she's fat and I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole, she doesn't work Fridays, works in the office " but then goes quiet...
It's strange. I was upset in the kitchen last week and when he came in I asked for a hug where he'd hug me from behind just put his arms around me and he goes " from behind? That's weird it's uncomfortable and doesn't feel right that it will feel awkward"

What?!?!?!!? Really?!
He won't touch me even during sex he doesn't seem interested and struggles to stay erect he's pissing me off in honesty.

What do I do? Xxx

So what happened after your discovery last December OP?

Did you try and look at his phone or try and get to the bottom of where the ring and the eyelashes came from?
Have you been on the alert for behaviour that would confirm he was cheating?
Because your latest update suggests he definitely is.

The question is what are you going to do abouit. And do you want to stay in a marriage where your H is not to be trusted and who doesn't want to even touch you.

Could he be cross dressing? Random
i know, but definitely not unheard of!

Bin him love.

She's leaving signs for you to find.

Do you live together? How long have you been with him?