You don’t have a mil problem you have a dh problem

[Festivesorrow]

Could someone please help me understand this? I’m really struggling to understand the rationale as DH insists his mums’s behaviour towards me has nothing to do with him. We are hosting her at the moment and I’m struggling to bite my tongue as she tramples over people’s boundaries

Yeah l used to have a DH like that. Don't miss my boundaries being trashed at all.

That’s the problem with ignoring - it does not work. Your eldest is being taught a poor lesson by her dad here re ignoring.

His mother too would have behaved the self same regardless of who he married. She probably thinks you stole her beloved son away from her. It’s not you, it’s her.

He won't say anything to her and says that you're not allowed to say anything either? So you're just supposed to put up with being treated abysmally? Screw that.

You've written that your husband is manipulative, doesn't allow you to perform normal actions, and doesn't like you. This is not a marriage.

I have made the decision to leave. Not
sure what the future holds and I’m scared but deep down I know it’s a line I need to draw