Am I right to be annoyed about this?

[SpunkyMintZebra]

So the other day, I walked into the kitchen and my husband was on his phone, he was on WhatsApp and I saw naked photos of girls in dirty situations, I asked what he was looking at, he said it was his friends chat.
I asked him what he was looking at again and told him what I saw, he said his friends sends dirty videos/photos of women. I asked if he does the same and sends them, and he said no, I asked him to show me. Of course he lied and also sends dirty photos and videos to his friends.
I don’t know why but this annoys me, I find it disgusting for one and completely inappropriate.
He told me I was being stupid and it’s ‘just what guys do’
eurgh, I don’t know why but it’s annoyed me. Am I being stupid or is this gross behaviour?

That is absolutely gross behaviour. That shows no respect for women whatsoever! It objectifies them. Id be questioning how he sees me if i were in your shoes.

This would make me lose respect for my husband if he behaved like this. What is he 14? This is gross. It’s disrespectful to you as his wife and it shows he views women as objects. He’s vile. This would be a serious issue for me. And no, not all guys do this. All shitty guys maybe but not all guys. He also lied to you when you asked if he sent them and this shows he knows it’s not appropriate behaviour.

‘just what guys do’
See that right there, what guys do. All men. Such a sense of entitlement over womens bodies he didnt even bat an eyelid at saying it is standard male behaviour.

My DH once got sent a "dirty" pic by a golf club mate, via a shared chat group. He texted him back " not on, mate", a few other guys in.the group backed him up, the guy learned his lesson and never did it again.
Not All Men

He and his pals are disgusting.
Only misogynists who view women just as sex objects would think this normal behaviour.
He has no respect for you and I certainly would have no respect for him.

I once went out for an evening with 2 female friends and their partners- one guy ( middle class, high earner late 50s) was busily showing some really dodgy very off colour porn to us all thinking we would find it funny - when we didn't he said to my H and my friends partner, 'what's wrong with you don't your mates do this? 'Both of them said nope they didn't have mates who did any such thing -- thing is this bloke fancied himself I think as a bit of a laugh/ geezer! I think he felt a bit of a twat to be honest

"He told me I was being stupid and it’s ‘just what guys do’"

Oh yes, that old line. Dump his filthy arse and tell him "it's just what girls do"! 😉

Really, don't put up with that shit.

Gross

You might want to think about your username..spunky has a very different meaning in the UK.
Apart from that he's just a misogynistic neanderthal.
Really unpleasant the way he has spoken to you.
Hopefully 2025 brings you a decent man.

It's not uncommon for men to access things like this. There are countless pages on Facebook, Insta etc showing scantily clad women.

No offence but surely you know what he's like. He's either straight edge like those mentioned above or he's a bit of a geezer oy oy darlin.

You’ve definitely done the right thing.

He’s a bully.

sorry, wrong thread

This is one of those things where he’ll be a hypocrite he’ll realise how it’s wrong if you started doing it too but I wouldn’t do it with anyone you know

What a disgusting pig.